If the descentralization of social networks continue, we will have to prepare for the eventual rise of the instances wars, where people will start to fight about which instance is better and which one is weird to be in and so on, but that’s for the future of us all.
But it is competition. When someone separates themselves now they are competing for the resources they decided not to share.
It wasn’t ever intend as a competition either. If they’re feeling overwhelmed and want to separate from big instances for a while, then they should be able to. Everyone’s taking it super personal when it’s not meant to be.