What makes me chuckle the most is the fact that OP’s psycho ex partner can be either female or male and yet here we are (or at least I am) thinking that the psychotic ex partner is of the opposite sex
Not necessarily, I am a heterosexual male and my best female friends refer to me as girl. Just cus you get called girl on my side of the planet doesn’t mean that you’re a girl by any means, either way we won’t know unless OP discloses their partner’s sex.
The psycho ex is being threatening and an asshole, I doubt they’re using the term “girl” just in a jokey and endearing way. Has more of a “you are my girl” vibe.
Edit: also, the “bitch” and “whore” are dead giveaways lol
Fair enough, taking this into account, then as the original commenter said, they’re most likely male. But it still interests me how as a collective society our reactions change based on these facts
Okay I gotcha. I definitely think its easy to get caught up in the battle of the sexes, I definitely grew up with intense messaging about generalizing both sexes, so I sometimes have to catch myself before randomly thinking X is doing that “cause they’re a man/woman”.
I still sometimes fall into it but i eventually met so many different/interesting men and women that I stopped being able to assign expectations to them based on the sex I saw them as. Took a long time though/i think its a lifelong journey. I like that you can identify that it is something you are projecting onto them because you want to but don’t understand. That’s a great foundation to build understanding on
What makes me chuckle the most is the fact that OP’s psycho ex partner can be either female or male and yet here we are (or at least I am) thinking that the psychotic ex partner is of the opposite sex
8th message middle row; heterosexual relationships are the most common globally.
Not necessarily, I am a heterosexual male and my best female friends refer to me as girl. Just cus you get called girl on my side of the planet doesn’t mean that you’re a girl by any means, either way we won’t know unless OP discloses their partner’s sex.
The psycho ex is being threatening and an asshole, I doubt they’re using the term “girl” just in a jokey and endearing way. Has more of a “you are my girl” vibe.
Edit: also, the “bitch” and “whore” are dead giveaways lol
Fair enough, taking this into account, then as the original commenter said, they’re most likely male. But it still interests me how as a collective society our reactions change based on these facts
u dislike a whole gender?
Ok fair enough that’s worded terribly, let me clear myself up. What I meant was the gender we do not understand because we aren’t it
Okay I gotcha. I definitely think its easy to get caught up in the battle of the sexes, I definitely grew up with intense messaging about generalizing both sexes, so I sometimes have to catch myself before randomly thinking X is doing that “cause they’re a man/woman”.
I still sometimes fall into it but i eventually met so many different/interesting men and women that I stopped being able to assign expectations to them based on the sex I saw them as. Took a long time though/i think its a lifelong journey. I like that you can identify that it is something you are projecting onto them because you want to but don’t understand. That’s a great foundation to build understanding on