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  • I think it depends on the context.

    Sometimes, friends can say something like this from a somewhat well-meaning place. Not necessarily that they’re mad at the situation, but more as a confidence booster to help that friend potentially get out of a bad relationship. (Sometimes this can be done in a bad way though).

    Other times, it’s a jealousy thing. Like, if a guy sees a woman he finds attractive with some other guy, he might start commenting on how she’s “out of his league” (regardless of the other guy’s qualities) either because he’s frustrated he can’t find a partner he finds attractive, or maybe even in hopes of competing with the other guy for the woman. This is mostly a toxic thing and rarely has much to do with how well the couple fits together.

    For me, it often just makes me wonder what positive qualities the person might have that make them a worthy partner. As someone who is not conventionally attractive at all and dating someone who is extremely attractive, seeing other couples that maybe aren’t an exact match in terms of looks gives me hope and confidence.

    As a side note, I’ve actually had a few well meaning friends tell me that my partner is “out of my league”, which was a bit hurtful, but I think they were just trying to be protective.

    TL;DR: Yeah, people say it (and mean it) for a variety of reasons. But it’s usually not that they object to it conceptually, but more that they have their own biases involved. Don’t let it affect your opinions though. There’s a lot more to a relationship than just how someone looks (or how much money they make).


  • This actually happened with my father. Not only was the missing rent due, but they also had a lawyer argue that by dieing, my father had broken the lease, so we had to pay the fee for that too. The judge reduced the fee a bit, but we still ended up having to pay thousands out of his estate to that shitty apartment complex’s parent company.

    So yes, at least in the state this happened, the missing rent was required to be paid out of the estate. Not sure what your role is in this scenario, but if someone died, consider kindness rather than trying to secure every last dollar possible.



  • AI agents are becoming your biggest API consumers, and they can’t always DM other teams. If you want to be productive with AI, if you want your codebase to be a place where agents can actually work, you need to think of your codebase as an application that the agent is interacting with.

    So what you’re saying is: mis-type everything! 👉😉👉





  • The most frustrating is when someone asks me for help because they’re stuck then hits me with a barrage of “chatgpt said xxx” complete nonsense while I’m trying to assess the situation

    That is the absolute worst. I’ve even gotten “Because Claude said so” in response to code review comments asking why they made a certain design decision.

    they let off the gas

    Man, I’m so jealous. My company is too large for me to have any sway, and they just added AI tool adoption as one of the key performance indicators on our performance reviews. 😔


  • I am staunchly anti-AI, but the company I am working for unfortunately pushes AI tool adoption extremely aggressively. A lot of the things in the post are similar to sentiments I have. Specifically the sections around vibe coding offloading the burden of work to the reviewer and how to mitigate that by pushing back against those sorts of PRs.

    I agree with you, though, that the post ignores the simplest solution of just not using AI tools. It may be the case that the author doesn’t have the ability to enforce that, but it should still definitely be listed as the first and most logical solution.

    I’m at the point where I’m seriously considering creating a blocklist of certain engineers at work that spam out vibe coded trash PRs and informing my manager that I will not do code reviews for anyone on the list.





  • In Texas, voters just passed a constitutional amendment giving parents the right “to exercise care, custody, and control of the parent’s child, including the right to make decisions concerning the child’s upbringing” specifically for cases like this. Almost everyone I spoke to was in full support of it and kept saying “obviously a parent should decide what’s best for their child”. But as someone who grew up in a toxic religious family, it makes me so sad to see that there’s no protection for kids in these situations. Parents can ensure they’re doomed to a life of ignorance and bigotry before they even have a chance. :(