I’m (19F by the way, not like 50) a bad texter. I can be not dry when I want to be, but usually I’m just not up for texting. I really don’t engage with my friends. (I’m asocial).
I don’t participate in their activities. I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are. I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.
When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.
Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this, but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.
One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”. IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.
Was this a better effort?
“how are you?”
“Listening to music.”
“what band??”
“Idk. Metallica or something”
“what song from them? i love metallica”
“Idk”
—- “what are you up to today?”
“Watching TV”
“what show?”
“Idk I can’t say”
Also, do I actually type like a 50-year-old?
Of course not, if I was chatting with you I’d feel like I was bothering you.
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My mom and mother-in-law are in their 80s, and they’re not great texters but you can tell they’re making an effort, and that counts a lot. It’s not about caring how well you text, but how a series of dry answers might make your friends feel like a nuisance.
You need to “groom” others to care about you so they tolerate antisocial behaviors, but not all people can be groomed this way.
My new response as “I’M WATCHING. A MOVIE!!!” :)
My friend just asked if I was ok.
Update: I said “NOOOO.” and she blocked me?? It’s okay though because she was autistic and I don’t like autistic people as friends. Plus, she said she was having problems with me and therefore was slandering me.
That was honestly not bad until you decided to be ableist 💔
What? So you’re ableist?
this sounds far better than how OP texts
you don’t type like a 50 year old, you type like someone who’s not interested in having a conversation
Not really better. How do you not know what you’re doing? Did the show just randomly come on when you turned on the TV/Metallica song came up in a playlist?