I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.
If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?
I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.
If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?
It’s more of a bell curve situation. The goal is to look as unoffensive as possible. Anything that can set off the ‘life is unfair’ alarm in people who are already unhappy increases the chances of comments. That includes, looking nice, wearing expensive (or perceived expensive) anything, most well doe makeup usage, nonstandard nailwork (anything more than a simple color).
While this isn’t true for everyone, it is definitely true for those who are willing to toss out comments in the first place…
And I wonder more than that how often you are getting comments. Unless you’re on either extreme end of the bell curve, or in some other way sticking out way more than you should, it’s strange to me that anyone would deal with being bullied.
Did you literally just use all those words to imply adult bullying doesn’t happen
I can appreciate that this is a sensitive topic for you but they didn’t claim adult bullying doesn’t happen. They said it’s strange to them that anyone is dealing with bullying outside of extreme circumstances. That’s my experience as well. Where I live It’s not culturally acceptable to bully. I’m sure it still happens but it’s rarer than other countries I have lived or visited.
He said, and I quote:
“Unless you’re on either extreme end of the bell curve, or in some other way sticking out way more than you should, it’s strange to me that anyone would deal with being bullied.”
Why would it be strange to him that anyone is getting bullied? It’s incredibly common especially in workplaces
Where do you live if I may ask? I’m also curious to hear the other places where it’s more common. I’ve been looking into moving cause of the amount of bullying here unironically
I suspect you might work in fashion economy or something like that? From what i’ve heard, people tend to be assholes there. In IT or anything technical, bullying is practically non-existent, from what i can tell.
Because it’s not common everywhere. I’m sure it happens everywhere but it’s a lot more common in certain places and industries. That’s why it’s strange to them.
I currently live in friendly Belleville, Ontario, Canada, it’s a city of 50K. I was born in the UK, grew up in Australia, and have lived / spent a lot of time in a few other countries as well.
Okay. Well I found workplace bullying common in the GTA. Not sure if it’s like that in smaller towns, but in day to day outside I pretty much never got treated poorly there. Customer service and grocery/store workers never bullied me.
What industry do you work in/have experienced bullying in?
Office jobs, AP/AR, that kind of stuff
That makes a lot more sense. According to the original post in which I was responding:
“I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.”
It was from that framework that I made my post. In those settings as an customer/bystander (which would be completely innocent people) it would be very strange to get bullying comments from many of them. Most wouldn’t/don’t care enough about people they literally don’t need to interact with to even bother putting the effort in to bully.
Office work/hierarchy bullying are super common and happen in almost any workplace I’ve ever seen. I wasn’t aware that was the topic. As for how to avoid being bullied in those types of situations… it’s a lot of work. Some of the common ways people handle it are to ignore, confront, joke, or play dumb. I personally mix it up.
But the single best way to deal with bullying is/has/will always be: group up. Bullies generally ‘punch down’, going for people who appear in some way weaker than they are. It falls apart very quickly when there are others around who are willing and able to support you.