I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.

If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?

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    Idk. When I was at a cafe not too long ago with my ex boyfriend… he was ordering and I sat down at a table.

    To put a long story short this dude basically harassed me to move to another table cause he decided the table was better for him and his 2 friends or some bs. I’m honestly not even sure. But he was a total jerk and literally made me get up and move twice, at which point I told him to go fuck himself, but he had no shame at all.

    Later my ex told me he probably wouldn’t have told a girl with her nails done and a purse to do the same. In this country there are a lot of women that dress fancy. I dress casual. So basically, i do think part of it is that.

    I’m just wondering if it would actually stop people acting this way though.

    It’s weird though cause they always pick on me. For example a cashier was really rude to me, and then there was a guy right after me who she was super nice to.

    I don’t know wtf is happening I’m so sick of it cause it happens way too often I just want to go outside without being treated like garbage for 2 seconds

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      sounds like a situation that most people aren’t in, and can hardly relate to

      In this country there are a lot of women that dress fancy.

      That is not my experience. Lots of people actually dress casually around here, and bullying because of that is certainly unheard of. Maybe that’s different in the country that you live in.

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          i didn’t ask you either. regardless, you getting so snappy might be a personality thing? i was just trying to give basic perspective / general commentary.

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            I’m not snappy, you’re just really out of touch. Your comment isn’t helpful, youre just bringing negativity and passive aggression. Looks like you’re just trying to start an argument

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      I’m just wondering if it would actually stop people acting this way though.

      Not all of them, there a few different types of bullies but I would say the majority of them are just weak people that like to focus their frustration on other persons they don’t think could get them into trouble (either by replying or by being able to make them pay in any way). And by dressing differently you’re sending a message they can read as an opportunity to bully you with little risk.

      But then it depends who they are, other bullies won’t change at all because you change your look.

      I don’t know wtf is happening I’m so sick of it cause it happens way too often I just want to go outside without being treated like garbage for 2 seconds

      Not knowing you nor what’s happening exactly, I can at least say I feel for you and understand your frustration. Those kind of things should not be happening in a functional society.

      What may help is try spending your time in other places. I live in Paris, it’s really far from being the worst city in the world and if most Parisians are indeed constantly angry people, they rarely bite. Still there are some sectors I will try not to spend too much time in, some where I would not put out any cash, and so on. I know it can be a pain but changing habits can help.

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        And by dressing differently you’re sending a message they can read as an opportunity to bully you with little risk.

        What why

        on other persons they don’t think could get them into trouble

        Damn ok so that’s basically every customer here lol