Smoking.
There are some kinds of walks that are just a turn off for me, and I’m not talking about ministry of silly walks.
Just if the guys have no tension in their body, no self esteem at all or walk as if they’d explode if their peepee touches either side of the legs, wide legged… Maybe one could call it " the baggy jeans walk"? Actually it’s hard to describe, but maybe you get it?
Ohh yess. When people seems to boost themself up as soon as their feet is leaving the ground. It always looks like her calves are air-sprung
Not having empathy with animal. Eating and using them is a big No No for me.
If a dating profile has a photo with a fishing pole in it.
I’m curious about this take. I’ve heard it a lot but never gotten an explanation on it. Can ypu elaborate?
Last Spring, my partner and I went on a hike beside some pothole lakes. We noticed a gorgeous species of fish in the water. I think they were Pumpkinseed sunfish. Their scales flashed bright colours in the sun, reds and blues. Each of them was tending to a bower they had built. They had each cleared a circle of the pond’s floor, making a visibly smooth, light coloured depression. We could see them guarding their little domain, scooping rock up and spitting them out around the perimeter, chasing off rivals, and displaying themselves in the sun. They were beautiful and we watched for the better part of an hour. It was really special to be able to observe animals engaging in highly evolved drives and striving to fulfill their imperatives.
Walking back, we came across three boys. They couldn’t have been more than ten years old. They were making a circle around one of these mating fish that they had caught. They were bent over, fascinated. It flopped in pain and fear, slowly dying. I was so fucking horrified. I wanted to throw the children into the water, though I kept my distance and did not interact with them.
I can’t blame children for being cruel and violent to a vulnerable individual. Children don’t have the full human capacity for empathy, and live in the weird world conjured from the things they are told rather than actually in reality. But when it comes to adults, there are no excuses. Adults who enjoy hurting animals, who do it for no reason other than it gives them pleasure, those people are fucked up. IMO, without exaggeration, they are adjacent to violent sociopaths that abuse humans. Most such people start out by hurting animals.
It’s bad enough that nearly everyone cruel and violent to animals three times a day, but there is a lot of context to that. Billions of dollars a year are spent conditioning and deceiving people, hiding their own cruelty from them and making them feel good about the violence they commit. They don’t even think about it. But when you are killing a terrified vulnerable individual with your own hands, JUST FOR FUN, that reality is unavoidable, undeniable, and unforgivable.
A bad attitude: always negative and defeatist.
Treating service workers like shit.
Willful rejection of basic hygiene. Come on, now. Toothbrushes and toothpaste are at Dollar Tree, make some effort.
Arrogance.
And let’s not forget MAGAts, gross. May as well date a cockroach.
It’s not something I can always tell “instantly”, but lack of curiosity. I can overlook a lot of flaws, being a very flawed person myself, but someone who isn’t curious about the world around them is an absolute waste of time, and no amount of physical beauty can make up for it.
Why I broke up ngl
Gonna go out on a limb here and say the obvious: being unattractive.
This question is always fishing for the “weird” things, or for ways for everyone to pat themselves on the back for not being shallow and expressing their moral standpoints in their dating preferences.
But in this day and age, it is always worth it to return to the fundamentals and focus on the obvious. So what’s obvious?
- Don’t have a fucked up face.
- Don’t be grossly overweight or sickly thin.
- Show minimal signs of aging. If you are aging, age gracefully.
- Don’t neglect basic higiene and grooming.
- Don’t wear ratty or ill-fitting clothes.
- Don’t be sick.
- Don’t be angry or depressed.
So if anyone is actually trying to become more attractive - here is a good starting point. Accept the things you can’t change, and work on the things you can. And yeah, also treat waiters nicely.
Fake boobs and inflated lips
Intentional poor spelling.
I get the joke, but seems more like German auto correction
True. It does match the profile, but I am usually not in the habit of profile diving unless I smell a troll.
No Ragrets
Seems to me this person might be German (considering the username as well) and used the German word by accident.
Mistakes are OK! (I added the word “intentional” as an afterthought to cover this contingency as the statement still remains true.)
Yeah, don’t worry, I get it. Just thought I’d give a possible explanation. ;)
So “international poor spelling” ?
I didnt even notice it. But yes i am german and dislexic
My favorite color is gray, but my British collegue says his favourite color is grey. Ugh… Bri🤮ish people, amirite? /s
Why the hell can’t you spell colour?!
I’m American, but somehow learned and got used to spelling it “grey” instead of “gray”. I have no clue how that happened.
Your teacher was a secret MI6 Agent, obviously.
Not wanting to put down their phone would rank high for me those days, even higher than smoking (which stinks and I know that for a fact, I was a smoker some 20 years ago ;)
I’m very intolerant of behavior that tells me type of people they are. For example throwing garbage on the floor, or being unkind to serving staff, or something like that. Red flags for sure.
And of course there’s the obvious stuff that is an instant deal breaker, like bigotry, being anti-vax, hating cats (or animals in general), right-wing politics, etc.
Not returning a shopping cart to the cart corral is an interesting litmus test to see how decent people can be. At least for me.
“That’s what they get paid to do.” Nah that doesn’t sit well with me. Being a lazy dick is not attractive.
Oh that’s a good one, yes. It’s something that costs you time and you get absolutely nothing in return.
Another one would be how they leave their (public) toilets behind. “That’s what cleaners are paid for.” No fuck off. – Though of course this one would be a little harder to actually witness. ;)
Wheeep whoop wooop, Cart Narcs!
Treating waitstaff or any other retail/restaurant worker poorly.
I had a server today bring me a salad with onions and peppers after I asked her not to. I gently asked her for another salad the way I wanted it, and the poor woman nearly broke down in tears apologizing to me. I reassured her that it was fine and not a problem.
I can’t imagine what kind of asshole treated her so badly over an honest mistake. Like, really?
Or what kind of boss she has. When I see stuff like that, I always make sure to tip well.
“Why is Jim treating the magician poorly?” :/
Smoking
+1
I can find a woman absolutely gorgeous, but as soon as she lights up a ciggie, I’m out. No thanks.
Being vacuous
Ie. celebrity worship, a disregard for politics etc.
Maggot hat.
Even if it’s the sunlight maggot? How you say no to my boy Solaire?
