Hi, I’m a 21 year old guy and every time I’m outside for example to buy groceries I see so many good looking people (both female and male).
I don’t know what it is but they seem almost perfect, their faces are so beautiful and perfect, their clothes are so stylish and perfect, their hair and make up appearance looks so well groomed and beautiful. (I’m mainly referring to people around my age from Gen Z)
They’re all so confident and wear jewelry etc.
I don’t even have the knowledge how to dress good and stylish as I don’t have a feel for that. I just end up wearing what’s most comfortable for me like random sneakers, sweatpants/shorts and a polo shirt. But even if I was able to dress stylishly my face naturally still looks very average and not like all these other people.
I wonder why people look so perfect nowadays. When I look at old video tapes or pictures (like from the 1900’s) people seem to have looked way more average like me. Why could this be? Is the pressure from social media a reason because that’s why I’m purposefully not on there.
And honestly I also don’t feel like putting so much time and effort into my looks as I think this is only secondary in life and I mainly value human connections. Obviously I put some extra time into it for some occasions where I put on contact lenses, creams, a little make up (one that’s for men of course), hair gel/spray and perfume but even then I feel like I don’t look as good as many of these people I see on a regular basis.
Idk maybe it’s because people are more connected now and feel obligated to look nice? I don’t have your experience and I’m in your age range. At uni, I don’t see beautiful people all the time.
I’m older now and just about all younger people look beautiful (I guess that is a bias to some degree as well) yet so many of the young have self doubts, etc. Reminds me of the saying that ‘beauty is often lost on the young’. One of the reasons might also be that a lot have easier lives than others before them.
Idk as someone who looks like shit its because I have far too much social anxiety so I dont usually go outside, also you might just be extremely horny
That’s hormones and spring for you.
Marketing.
It depends on where you are. I just drove thru a college campus the other day for the first time in years, and for it being one of the first really nice days, I have to say the student body was… Underwhelming
You’re obviously not from round here… (Gesturing vaguely at shuffling hordes of very plain people in my town. Self included. I fit right in.)
Seriously though, comparing yourself with strangers is a terrible idea. That said, if you do want to smarten up a bit, I’d suggest going to a menswear store and asking an assistant to assist. Explain your dilemma, ask them to help you put together one outfit, “smart casual” would be a good start. Good luck!
i never was in your situation. I live in France, and wherever I go, everyone looks like Quasimodo’s cousins
Really? I would’ve assumed the opposite, isn’t France the fashion center of the world?
They didn’t say they’re poorly dressed. Just ugly
You’re horny
Just saying other people look beautiful and better than me doesn’t mean I’m horny. This realization wasn’t meant on a sexual basis. But I guess nowadays people always take stuff like this the wrong way.
But the comment is still funny lmao
Yeah, it was 95% sarcasm. But don’t underestimate the evolutionary urge to procreate, it’s one of the most powerful forces on the planet.
My guess is you are down bad and bisexual. Rub one out and then check again.
What? I’m not bisexual. I can say a male looks good without being gay.
That would have been required for my theory, so I guess you deflated it.
You know to be honest, there are lots of people who are more laid back. People like slaying the day away but there’s no shame in putting less effort into your appearance, especially just for a grocery trip! :)
I consider my appearance to be armor. I put on makeup and cute clothes and style my hair so I can face the world. Helps my social anxiety.
Also, totally doesn’t take that much time. 20 minutes max once you get into the habit of it.
I don’t know you, but there’s a chance that someone else had this exact realization after seeing you
believe it or not, there is such a thing as looking “good enough” in any situation. spending this much time comparing yourself to everyone else-- you’re in for an exhausting life
Now don’t quote me on this, it’s based on my memory from an art history lesson roughly 20 years ago (Kunst-Grundkurs im Saarland, Ü). But, if I remember correctly, there is an inverted relationship between fashion (meaning the way people present themselves in general) and the economy. When the economy is booming, people tend to go with simple, understated shapes and colours. When the economy is slowing down, they tend to go overboard, putting more effort into their looks, wearing more noticeable jewellery etc (possibly to keep up appearances that they’re still fine?).
Again, these are tendencies, not struct rules. But maybe that’s what you’re noticing?
