A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.
Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.
Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.
“Commander”
My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.
so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children
You’d be surprised 😅
Yeah. I had to carefully word my dad’s obituary to not gender me–I wasn’t out yet, but it would have added more pain to the event if I’d been misgendered in it. Luckily, I have a sibling, so I able to rework the first draft from “survived by his son ___ and daughter ___” to be “survived by his children __ and __”.
Anyways, if I had a kid I think I’d just go by my name, or any nickname they came up with. I called my binary parents by their names so it doesn’t feel weird to me.
I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.
But people do tell others about their sons or daughters
Absolutely, but then you can say “my kid” or something instead of “my daughter”. Using “child” as a title is different than using it as a pronoun standing in for their name.
Good point!
Thank you. It’s very rare that I make one!
Yeah my kids are mostly kids when I talk about them
I’m in my 30’s and my Dad still refers to me as “kiddo” sometimes.
my son calls me baba. i’ve met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol
That’s very cute!
Baba Is You!
“oi! Fuckface!”
I should call her.
Sometimes I miss australia.
That would be fun at parent-teacher conferences!
I’d say go Borg and be 1 of 3
Of Unimatrix 007
They use a mixture of “MOM” and “DAD” and call them “MAD”.
Just a silly joke. I have no opinion.
I’ve heard “Mawpaw” for a bigender person before which sounds kind of delightfully southern.
DAM!
“mather” or “fother”
No you have it backwards, it’s DOM. As in, “I was bad so my dom had to punish me.”
Your comment and the resulting chain are all excellent suggestions!
So that’s where madam comes from
Parental unit
Beep boop robo-Clay approves.
'nit for short
Tangential, but my wife is nonbinary and I still call them my wife. They’re okay with it. And I don’t mean to be lewd, but in bed they like to be called Daddy instead of Mommy. My point is that it’s probably a case by case thing without a universal and some nonbinary folks don’t mind some gendered terms. It might even be context based.
Interesting! Thank you for sharing.
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M’F’er
🤭
Isn’t that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term “biological dad” implies the existence of an “artificial dad”
Adopted dads are technically artificial dads.
What about step dads?
In which context? They’re probably MFers too. If you mean artificial or biological… Could be either, but let’s go with 3rd party replacements.
I don’t think that’s really true.
Dad is a title, bestowed by anyone for any reason.
“Biological dad” may have a specific meaning, but “dad” does not.
I would say that an artificial dad is the partner of a married single mom.
I mean, that can be misunderstood. Better to mix mom and dad into … “dom” … or why not “mad”?
I don’t know how I missed this. Obviously you have the correct answer!
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
and what about enby grandparents?
Sure, same idea.
Grandy seems an easy choice.
My aunt was raised by her grandfather and called him Grandy. Everyone has called him that since.
I was wondering the other day why gran is always the grandma not the grandpa
I would expect it’s a shortening of “granny” not grandma (or grandmother) directly.
I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
Is this a real question?
They would just call them by their name or by a nickname. Or by mom or dad if the parents don’t care about that.
i mean, this is the real answer yeah. but i’m liking @[email protected]’s answer and will begin enforcing ‘honored ancestor’ instead of my name.
edit: if it doesnt like properly this time it’s never going to…
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Short for mother and nother?
Love it.
