I’m 19M, my girlfriend is 17F. We’ve been dating for almost a year now. Her family has no idea though, because she refuses to tell them; and it honestly hurts. My family loves her. Her family’s Muslim and she says that’s the reason she can’t tell them yet, but she will… eventually. I get that they’re Muslim, but come on, we live in the West and it’s a free country. I’ve never pressured her about it but it still upsets me.
It could be for her safety that she’s keeping you a secret. There have been so called “honor killings” of women whose dads or brothers suspected that she had dated someone and had sex out of wedlock.
Even in my western and free country of The Netherlands.
Do you trust your girlfriend? Then let her decide when it’s the right time to tell her family about her, her very life might just depend on it!
What the fuck? People kill their adult child for having sex?
Sadly yes, it’s got its own category of type of killing too:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_killing
And it’s usually the woman that suffers, or gets killed.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Honour_killing_in_the_United_Kingdom
Yes, and for generally just disobeying men.
Got a thread deleted for bringing this up, it’s islamophobic and racist to bring up the medieval practices.