Just came across this question on reddit and tbh…i don’t know
People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don’t know how to speak, i don’t smile often, i’m shy, i look very judgemental or i’m just too egotistic…so i don’t know if i’m actually someone worth hanging out with
And no i didn’t make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.
I don’t know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don’t really hold back against me
So what about y’all?
i would be afraid that i would murder me
Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.
Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.
Agreed! We both like the same shows… never fighting about what to have for dinner… it’s great
Probably not. I don’t really want to be around people who act like me. I’ve done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I’m doing a good enough job.
Masking is exhausting
people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there
If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?
I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.
But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.
Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation
That seems positive. But it’s your call.
For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.
I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.
It’s nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in
No, there is only so much weed at my house and if the guy is like me, he will smoke it all. DAMN YOU ME!
Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I’m super friendly and fun and loving.
And humble!
One-on-one? Sure, I’m hilarious.
In a group? No. I’m an attention hog, I don’t need the competition.
Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.
I would hang out with myself, but I feel like it would be a very quiet meeting because we both would just be doing our own thing because unless someone else is spearheading the conversation or as a topic that I’m passionate about, I generally stick to myself anyway.
Yeah. I would. I’ve been asking myself that for a long time and I’ve tried to become someone I would get along with.
No. I get introduced to people who are “like me” and I don’t like them off the hop.
I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.
People like me. I have friends. I like my friends. But I do question their judgement being friends with me.
I would marry me if I could
Would you hang
out withyourself?FTFY
I would have an orgy with myself if I had a cloning machine.
I would try out for RLCS with my 3-me-team in Rocket League.
I would never wonder where my team mates are in The Finals, because now they are also me.
Lmao I was thinking I would duo queue RL with myself
It would be on sight.
hangout
That’s a noun. You want “hang out” with a space. It’s the difference between asking “what’s up, Chuck” and “what’s upchuck?” Supdog is the exception.
