I really like watch porn videos of women saying very humilating and degrading things about me because I love feeling like I’m a loser, Inadequate and worthless.
But I don’t want tell my future wife or girlfriend that I’m into this because it’s so embarrassing. How do I get rid of this kink?
Look, the reason you call it is a “kink” is because it is something you find oddly attractive and yet also don’t actually literally want (as in the person actually really meant it to hurt you not as part of a roleplay).
We normally call these things “fantasies” in the rest of life and the thing about a fantasy is that it is contained within a bubble of your imagination and consent.
If don’t want your future wife or girlfriend to humilate you, yeah of course… but if she is doing it in a way that she knows turns you on and it is under an umbrella of consent… that is none of the business of the judgemental sides to ourselves no matter how easy it is to make a deragotory joke about it being disgusting or depraved, because it is just sex this isn’t our business at that point.