I’m 20F, he’s 25M. We met in January and have been dating since last month. He’s already met my parents - they love him, and he hangs out at our house all the time. Literally no one has any issues with him, he’s super welcome here. I invited him to sleep over for a few days this week just for fun, but he said he’s not comfortable with it - apparently it feels too “intimate” for him? Like, he’s got this thing about doing private stuff with other people around. I just want him to relax a bit. We’re all adults here, and everyone knows people have private lives. How can I help him feel more okay with it?
You should really move out or stay at his place when you want to fuck. He doesn’t need to regress into your childhood.
Agree on this. But if the boyfriend already feels uncomfortable staying at her parents house for just a meal, sleeping and having a shit, then something more is going on with him.
People who downvote and don’t comment why they disagree are cowards in my book, btw.
Bad take
It’s normal to not want to hang out with your partners parents.
They’re not dating mommy and daddy, mommy and daddy shouldn’t be a part of your romantic relationships.
Yeah, for 20 year olds maybe- ah, now I remember what post I commented this other. OK that’s fair. If you’re like 40 years old and still say “I don’t want to spend any time with my in-laws at all” I personally would consider that weird though.
I don’t want to spend any time with my in-laws and I’m over 40.
I didn’t downvote but I think the “something more is going on with him” has a nefarious tone and seems unwarranted for something as innocuous as not wanting to share a bed with a new partner inside her parents’ home.
True I worded it weirdly.
This is going to be more common as people won’t be able to afford to move out.
Sure is.
Doesn’t change the issue.
No one said anything about sex?
I guess the “private stuff” they’d be doing with her parents home isn’t sex then.
Tax filing
It was heavily implied at the end that that’s part of the issue