I’m 20F, he’s 25M. We met in January and have been dating since last month. He’s already met my parents - they love him, and he hangs out at our house all the time. Literally no one has any issues with him, he’s super welcome here. I invited him to sleep over for a few days this week just for fun, but he said he’s not comfortable with it - apparently it feels too “intimate” for him? Like, he’s got this thing about doing private stuff with other people around. I just want him to relax a bit. We’re all adults here, and everyone knows people have private lives. How can I help him feel more okay with it?
I would give him time, if I were you. After a month of dating, that’s still pretty early in a relationship. Sleeping on someone else’s house can be scary, so early on.
After all, you wouldn’t want to be forced into something you’re not ready for either.
I totally get your side too, it may seem weird but it’s his boundary to set. He has said no, and no still means no.
The best thing you can do is to keep the invitation open and talk about it with him. Find out what he thinks or fears is going to happen.
Maybe he had a bedtime ritual that he’s not yet willing to share yet.