I’m a Spanish person living in the Netherlands for already almost 9 years. In one hand at some point in these last years, I started to feel like I don’t belong in Spain anymore, and on the other hand, I think I’ll never feel fully integrated in NL. Any thoughts? Advice? Someone feeling the same?
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I do know people who have had that. One fellow I new was German but loves in the US and still has a German twang in his voice, so in the US he is considered German. But when he goes home to Germany because he has picked up an American accent he is considered American so he doesn’t feel at home in either place.
I was born in Germany, but grew up in Brazil. I moved to Germany when i was 20 and am still living here. I have the same experience and am really sad that i really felt like having lost “my” Brazil the last times i went there, if it makes sense.
I’m an American living in America, and I most certainly don’t belong here anymore - nor do I want to belong to what it has become.
Must be many feeling this way. I know i would if my leaders became sith lords.
Which country?
Sorry, I thought most everyone assumed “America” equated to the (supposedly) “United States of America” (which is the answer to your question) unless specified otherwise.
No, that would be very offensive to the rest of the continents’ countries
Interpreting “I live in America” as a continental reference makes you the exception in my experience. If I lived in one of those other countries on either American continent, I likely would have said the name of the country instead of the name of the continent (let alone without specifying which one).
Honestly fully expect you’re trolling, but I’ll play nice nonetheless.
Kinda feeling the same, thinking of moving back to my home country from another EU country now after 6 years. Do you feel integrated in the local international community perhaps? That is what feels the most home-y right in the city I’m currently living.
I feel like I belong some place better.
Yeah same. I’ve been in Canada for 26 years and I dont feel like I belong at home (Mexico) or here.
No thoughts or advice, I’m just always trying to find where I belong.
Je bent thuiuiuis wanneer je Douwe Egberts driiiinkt ✌️
Folgers is where your home is ✌️
But seriously, yeah, that’s a well known psychological symptom. And I doubt you never heard of it before ;)
I live in the east of the Netherlands, but work in the west. I don’t feel at home in the west, because it is much too crowded. I also don’t feel at home in the east, because its much too rural. I mostly feel at home when I’m at home with my family. I feel at home at my workplace. Often times I also feel at home when I’m somewhere with my friends. “Home” is a very strange concept to define.
Well said
You are definitely not alone, my friend.
Born in Portugal, but due to some traumatic events and childhood traumas, I don’t like living there. And just don’t fit in with their personality and lifestyle.
I live in the UK for 10 years now and honestly I like it here, and feel much better here than my home country.
Try having some local friends and reflect how you can integrate more. It doesn’t need to be a a big change. Just small changes.
Funny enough, there is a Portuguese singer that sings: “… I am well where I am not …”
I guess it’s the case for me, you and many people.
Yup, after I ran away from home I moved around a lot in the UK, then 7 years ago moved to Spain, and I’m now in the middle of 6 months working in Vietnam.
I don’t think there’s ever been a time when I felt like I was in the right place, like I did up to the age of about 10 or so … however, when I visit my brother, I do feel like I’m “home”. Not because of physical location, but because of him.
Hello fellow Vagrant, I’m also out of place … Cuban born, raised in Spain for 16 years now living in the US for 20.
I like to think my “homeland” is the internet … it’s the only place people like you and I fit in.
In fact, the FEDIVERSE to be more precise is where I feel I fit the best.
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Como dice Mago de Oz “No eches raizes en un sitio muvete, pues no heres un arbol para eso tienes dos pies”
The key is to keep moving. Just keep running and you’ll always feel free /s
For what it’s worth I never felt like I belonged in my home country. And I’ve never lived abroad but when visiting, it always felt very foreign too. As much as I dislike my country’s culture it’s still a part of me that’s very hard to change and I guess that’s the problem with living abroad. In a way, international groups might feel the most comfortable as there’s no predefined culture you have to fit into.
That’s how us Jews feel. We’ve felt that way for thousands of years.
We certainly dont belong in Palestine. The fascist Zionists fucked that up bad.
I still live in my home country and I also feel a similar way. I’m too weird to be normal, but I’m too normal to be weird. I can fit in anywhere and adapt to just about anything, but no where does it feel like I belong. It’s an existence that feels and is very liminal.
It’s not anyone’s fault. I’m wired in a very peculiar way. There isn’t really anything I or anyone else can really do. All I can do is keep trying to meet people, do things I like, and trying new things I like and maybe some day something will click. Being about 1/3 of the way through my life though that’s not super likely. Could be worse. Could be better.
