What qualities do you covet?

  • ContrarianTrail@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    I really struggle to answer this even though I have this constant feeling of something being wrong. I’ve been quite lucky with genetics and the things I’ve wanted to change that can be changed I pretty much already have.

    I guess there are two things I’d like to even further improve on:

    • I’d like to care less. I like myself the least when I get emotionally captured. I’d like to just be able to let it go and be teflon where nothing sticks.
    • I’d like to naturally want to read more.
    • mearce@programming.dev
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      4 days ago

      Reading can feel like such a chore, even if you enjoy it.

      I have trouble getting started. I’m not sure why I feel as though I should only read a book at a time, and that I should finish every book I start.

      So I am trying to treat reading more like how I watch TV. I can start and stop, maybe skip a slow episode (chapter, page). I read more than one book at a time. I just swap between books as my interest changes.

      Also, audiobooks have been a really great way for me to read more. I listen on walks, while driving, doing odd jobs, or just while playing some mindless game that keeps my eyes and hands occupied while I listen.

      It’s just so much more fulfilling than listening to music. I find nothing is quite comparable to the way books capture a moment. Theres just so much perspective and wisdom even in fiction books, they can make other media seem somewhat shallow in comparison sometimes.

      If you get/have a library card, see if they support overdrive/libby. I periodically replace my social media apps on my homescreen with a book reading app. When muscle memory decides its time to doom scroll, I end up reading a few pages of a book on my phone instead.

      About caring less, I cant claim to have figured it out, but read stoic philosophy seems to help put me on the right track. My understanding is its the basis for a lot of modern psychotherapy, and it seems to make a lot of sense to me.

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        4 days ago

        Do you listen to podcasts too or just audiobooks? In my case, I already listen to a lot of podcast, and I feel like when I’d have a chance to listen to audiobook, I’d just rather put on a podcast. Though perhaps some non-fiction, especially if read by the author.