I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.
Someone who is ace explained it to me that it was very difficult for them to figure out if they were bi/pan or ace because they were equally attracted to everyone, it’s just that the attraction was zero lol.
I can confirm that. At first I thought this “butterflies in the stomach” feeling was just an invention and I had girlfriends but I never felt a real spark. Then I got into a queer space and slowly figured things out. These days I always say I’m either content how I am or I have a happy surprise waiting for me, you could say I can only win.