Maybe work on that inflated ego first.

I am not a better human being, but I’m combating my irritability one cause at a time. Firstly, treating physical conditions that cause irritability (as much as money has let me): hormonal issues, sleeping issues, etc. Secondly, addressing psychological and psychiatric problems (I had to learn a lot of these topics because I wasn’t able to afford specialists all the time and it was an interest of mine anyway). Finally, fixing external or environmental causes, e.g. working on changing toxic relationships.

It is still a work in progress, but my life is getting calmer and calmer as I am ticking the boxes in that list. At some point, you get to a place where you can search for your own answers, existentially speaking, and that also helps. Here I mean exploring philosophy and your own ideas; your feelings, your passions, etc.

Be patient. Be compassionate with yourself (and others).

I get super pissed when my shitty laptop and/or internet connection slows to a crawl while I’m working from home. It feels (irrationally) like a betrayal. It’s my stupid work equipment hampering me when I just want to get shit done.

I usually fly off the handle and curse a blue streak while rebooting everything. Sometimes I think it’s AV or bossware slowing me down.

Seems to happen at the worst times, too. Like when I’m trying to fix something important, and am already under time pressure.

When I get angry at someone online, I mute or block them

When I get angry at someone IRL, I walk away and put physical distance between us.

If it happens often and I cannot put distance between myself and the other person, then I take a few days to think about what made me angry and I draft a letter explaining my feelings and what are my needs to prevent it from occurring again. If it keeps happening, then I make changes to my life so I dont have to see them.

Started thinking about if something will affect me in 8 minutes, 8 hours, or 8 days. Now i only get mad at things that will affect me for 8 days. My anger is from combat so it’s unreasonable which makes it easier to ignore now that i’m aware of it.

It sounds like there is some other sort of resentment at play here. Is there some other underlying attribute the coworkers who annoy you share? Example: Are they friends outside of work and you are not? Is it a racial or ethnic difference? Look for the reasons why they specifically “set you off” and address those biases. Try to better understand them as people first.

You say they are lazy - is it your job to police them at work? If not, then do your work and get promoted. Then you can actually do something about it. Until then, back off unless they prevent you from doing your job. Maybe when they see you are doing better than they are, maybe they’ll follow your lead.

If you want to be a leader, lead. Be the change you want to see. Take pride in yourself and your work, inspire others.

Anyway, ask yourself those questions and be honest. If you are troubled by the answers, start there.

Hope this helps

You could learn to accept it for what it is, as it’s not yours to spend energy on it.

People are flawed, you are people too. Equally flawed, just differently.

I started therapy and my therapist helped me see that my fucked-up childhood left me with lots of triggers, which we examined. Understanding those triggers reduced their power. I also now understand I can leave stressful situations before I blow up. I don’t have to constantly mask.

So, therapy. It’s awesome. If your first therapist isn’t a good fit it’s ok to find another one.

I’ve had similar strong reactions to other things. In my case, I had some unresolved trauma that I wasn’t even consciously aware of until I worked through it with a therapist. Not necessarily the case with you, but it might be worth talking to a professional if you have the means.

That being said, every office seems to have obnoxious coworkers (that’s pretty much the premise of The Office, and why it did so well). And that can be annoying for sure. For me, I try to not take my work overly seriously, and I try to remember that others might find me obnoxious at times too.

Just remember none of us have free will.
Truly grocking that, makes anger at a person a sensible as anger at a wall.

Removing / migitating sources of stress and anxiety. I was known at work for my regular expression of anger, and if it wasn’t that it was sarcasm. Had a 3 month rehab after crashing really hard, and the “observers view” of my life at home made me see what had to change. Similar progress could be made with a good therapist, will take more time tho.

Stoicism helped me. The dichotomy of control.

“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you’ll find strength.” -Marcus Aurelius

Basically everyone is responsible over their own thoughts and actions.

You don’t have anger issues, you have a toxic work environment issue.

Not likely to help but for me it was joining the military.

Between the training I received and the situations I faced, nothing in civilian life has really been able to effect me.

It’s been 25 years since I left the service and I can count on one hand the times I’ve actually been angry about something.

For me, it was a number of things that all came about through my 20s. The biggest were learning both how and when to tell people “no”, and making a conscious effort to think proactively rather than reactively.

What I mean by that is don’t take on extra work only because someone asks you to, and if something goes wrong, only worry about it if you can actually do something about it. Both of these are skills that require practice.

Also, as others have said, think critically if it might just be a shitty work environment. If that’s the case, consider looking for other work while keeping this job.