And please don’t tell me “just change jobs”.

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    Your job change, you should. 🙂

    Joke aside, depends what is the issue here:

    1. Are you unsatisfied with your job or
    2. You enjoy/value your free so much.

    As others have mentioned, find something to look forward to. If you’re miserable at your job, see what you can do to change that. Any small wins you can look forward to?

    If you’re in a position “do I really need to do this for the next 30-40 years”, that’s a more difficult thing to resolve. We’ve set up a system for ourselves where that is the only possibility of surviving in this world. To change that you’d need to move somewhere to the highlands of Scotland or a tropical island somewhere and live completely off the grid. Unfortunately, though, that life is not easy.

    Your best bet is to be born rich. Other than that, friends help. Having a support net and something to do that brings you joy makes this a tiny bit more bearable. Go read books. Go to the park. Sign up for dancing lessons or martial arts. Learn a new language. Travel. World is so much more than what we see on TV.

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    Start your own business

    It’s just that, but every single day

    Then you get to send invoices which is like Christmas

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    You need things to work towards.

    Also, if one thinks going to work is bad, there will not ever be a worse feeling than coming home fired and pondering how you’re going to upkeep your expenses and a roof over your head.

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    I’ve tried really hard to get a job that requires as little from me as possible and still pays the bills.

    Life is misery, every week I start knowing I will not be allowed enough freedom to ever stop being a wage slave.

    I work to stay alive, and have no chance to plan for the future.

    I have nothing to live for besides the people I care about, and my work makes it so I have to spend almost all my time away from them or too tired to interact.

    Our world is dying and I can’t even be upset about it anymore, becuse whatever happens will be more fulfilling than this

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      I’ve tried really hard to get a job that requires as little from me as possible and still pays the bills.

      And does it make you a better project manager?

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      I’m not sure how to phrase this without sounding like a condescending jerk, but that’s not my intention.

      The thing is, a job that requires as little from you as possible while still paying the bills is guaranteed to be unfulfilling.

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        There is no fulfilling job in this system

        Having a gun put to your head and being told to work or die is not fulfilling in any way. It’s a hostage situation. It’s slavery.

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            When I am allowed to choose to spend my time working twoards the actual benefit of society for a fair wage call me.

            Until then I’m not doing any of this voluntarily, it’s against my will. Like a slave

            It’s a constant fight for survival, we’ve made the horrible mistake of modeling our systems off of the cruel fuedal hierarchies of the past and the cruel uncaring themes of nature. These are things a fair civil society is supposed to oppose and ours is failing.

            Sorry if I can’t delude myself into being a happy slave for some boomer on the internet lol

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              “Working towards the actual benefit of society” is subjective and I’m not sure what your definition is.

              In Western Australia where I live there are several gargantuan projects under construction to use solar to crack hydrogen out of water for export to south east asia. 1,000s of construction jobs in these projects. A labourer without a trade qualification would probably earn at least 2x the average Australian full time wage doing that. A qualified trades person with experience in this type of project might earn 2.5 or even 3x average wage.

              I volunteer as the treasurer for a local 18 bed refuge for teenagers without a safe place to live. They employ about a dozen social workers for the in-house and outreach programs. All of these people are earning close to the average full time wage.

              My own job as an accountant is less directly “benefit of society” but I do find it satisfying to help people navigate complex situations.

              I think most people are able to choose to spend their time working towards the actual benefit of society for a fair wage.

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                Oh well I live in the US where the less fortunate are put in prison and forced to be slaves.

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                  I’ve never been to the US but I’m certain that’s not true.

                  I’m not trying to be a snarky online asshole telling you you’re wrong about everything. I’m certain that I’ve felt the way you are in the past. I do genuinely wish you well.

                  I guess I was just trying to give you some hope for the future by challenging your feeling of hopelessness.

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          If capitalism didn’t exist and we just had a more archaic society, it would almost invariably be agrarian and you’d need to work for food or also die.

          It’s not largely different.

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    Having a fulfilling weekend helps. The weekends where I sit and rot are where I get to Sunday night and feel like “oh shit I don’t want to go to work I didn’t enjoy my weekend”.

    But weekends where I’ve worked on projects, hung out with family and friends, gamed, maybe done some chores or just got out the house help lessen the blow. It also helps that I don’t really sleep in much these days, like I’ll usually get up at 9:30 or 10 and those couple hours instead of getting up at noon help make the day feel more worthwhile.

    Doing all that usually has me tired enough going to sleep rather than doom scrolling or brain rotting. Which in turn leads to a gentler time waking up Monday.

    And then on Monday itself I kinda ride the high of having a good weekend and that I can push through 8 hours to get back home and continue some of those activities

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    IME hardest part is getting up and getting out the door. After that things usually aren’t so bad.

    I also give myself things to look forward to, reward myself.

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      It’s probably healthier than consciously working your way through a life of wage slavery.

      If I could just delete every Monday-Friday out of my life and toss out 5/7ths of my life I think I would prefer to live for 2/7ths of my lifespan and not be a slave

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        My only concern is it seems to be getting harder for me to focus on things when I need to as time goes on.