Tipping ‘nudges’ are now popping up on DoorDash. If you don’t leave a gratuity, you’ll hear about it.::DoorDash is the latest delivery service to nudge customers who don’t tip. It shows how intrusive tip requests are, and how important tips are to gig workers.

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    I’m far from a cheap tipper, but the way tipping culture has evolved in North America is ridiculous.

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      I have traditionally been a good tipper. Often others will mention it.

      But the recent changes have me turned into a mister pink in a lot of cases.

      Anything take out or not full service I just hit no now. Also the round up for some random cause, I found companies only have to donate like 10% of those to stay in the clear.

      Also in the few instances I’m getting take out type shit like pizza and hit “no” and they made a comment. I no longer go there.

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        I stick with the tipping habits I grew up with.

        • If I’m getting table service at a restaurant, I tip the waitstaff.

        • If I’m getting food delivered, I tip the delivery person.

        • I tip taxi drivers.

        • I tip bartenders. I’m honestly not sure how to tip bartenders these days though, because it used to be “$1 per drink”, which seemed quite generous when drinks were less than $5. Now a single drink might be $12. Am I really supposed to tip 20% on that?

        If I’m walking up to a counter and getting takeout or fast food, I’m not tipping. That’s nutty. Nobody would even consider that if they didn’t use these customer-facing tablets everywhere nowadays.

        Sometimes I’ll toss a buck in the tip jar at my favorite coffee shop or pizzeria, but it’s not a percentage thing.

        I’ve always known old people to be shitty tippers. Maybe I’m on my way to becoming one of them now, failing to keep up with social norms. But I really don’t think this is the norm, and I don’t want it to become the norm.

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          Yeah I’m mostly at the same. But coffee shops and pizza shacks etc have gotten to be the worst on the tipping thing, and being vocal about it.

          I guess I’m just old now. But even at restaurants we have stopped going in the last year because the level of dgaf is through the roof and the service is shit, burgers are 17 bucks and it’s just not enjoyable. One of our favorite pizza places is like that. Get the waiter that is AirPods in, asking you to repeat your order, fucking up the order, forgetting shit or even to fire an entire part of the parties order, and the ordeal taking 2 hours.

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            I worked at a coffee shop and 40% of my wage was tips. I wouldn’t be able to afford to live otherwkse. Please tip your barista.

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          I just stopped eating out. It’s gotten ridiculous, it’s cheaper and healthier to just cook yourself

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      I wasn’t a cheap tipper before, but I’m rapidly moving in that direction as tip culture spirals out of control.

      My guilt-o-meter is getting desensitized out of necessity and soon I’ll be a cheap or non-tipper and feel no remorse.

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        This is happening to me right now, too. And it feels shitty because I know the servers aren’t asking for this.

        But you hit it on the head. My guilt levels are rapidly diminishing over time because I am just bombarded with requests for tips in every scenario no matter how ridiculous. My internal threshold for when a tip is merited has been steadily going up as I’m forced to sit and think about it during what feels like over half of transactions I make.

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        I’m in this same boat. I used to tip 30% or more depending on multiple factors. Now some restaurants add a forced tip, of 10-20%, and all they’ll get from me because they just set their own tip instead of just increasing their prices. Apps who cannot get their service employees (which they really are) to follow the most basic of instructions then have the gall to demand tips up front, instead of paying people enough to give a fuck, have me tipping zero as often as not if not most of the time.

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      I tip less and less the more they complain about it. I don’t even tip at those register prompts at all anymore. Conservatives keep talking about how raising wages will increase prices but they have no answer about why prices are going up anyway even without raising wages.

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        Conservatives keep talking about how raising wages will increase prices but they have no answer about why prices are going up anyway even without raising wages.

        Wages are only one of the drivers of cost.

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      I tip 10% for delivery. They’re just dropping my food off. Sit in dining 20% for average service.

      The tipping culture has become insane. Historically it was a dollar or two for delivery.

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            Some friends and I ordered 5 pizzas the other day, so our total was going to be about $100. I was going to pick it up and asked what everyone thought I should tip. Several of the people said 20%, but I was God damned if I was gonna pay someone $20 for me to pick up pizza from them.

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              I remain confused about what you are tipping for at all for pickup orders? I assume you are under 30? Does purchasing food just equal tip, period? Is it totally detached from a service element and just a kind of bizarre tax for young Americans?

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                I am over 40. The person who suggested over 20% is over 50. So it’s not just a young person thing.

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                Restaurants rely more and more on tips to make up server wages as cost of living skyrockets and workers need more and more hourly in order to survive. It sucks that businesses aren’t making the difference from their own pockets, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tip. You’re not fighting the system, you’re denying people a living wage.

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            Curious why a dollar or two? Do you just generally feel that food is underpriced? Is there a scenario where you would just pay the asked price?

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                It just sounds like a strange American tax that is paid for food. The problem of tipping is getting worse. Why pay extra for the basic level of food preparation with no additional services rendered? In what scenario would you not pay extra? Why has this become like this for food but not flowers for example?

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        I’m pretty sure tipping them in the app does not get them a cash payout. Either way, supporting tax evasion doesn’t seem like the best way to get people fair wages.

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        You are right, and it frustrates me.

        I could never be in a job where I didn’t know I was going to have a consistent check. I work the same hours, let’s say, and because I didn’t get enough tips one week, I’m now behind on something or another. I truly think people are crazy to not want steady income.

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    • Ban tipping as a substitute for min wage.
    • Ban tipping companies,
    • Allow tipping people.

    Until then, tip people with cash.

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      Good luck with the logistics of that. Just ban tipping. It’s bad for business, bad for individuals (in the long run), and a highly discriminatory practice.

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      Generally agree, but if you use an app that only exists because of tipping being expected like food devliery apps, then if you don’t put down a tip then no one is going to pick up your order. All they will see is a terrible pay for an order.

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        At that point, that’s not a tip, that’s a bid in a market. Maybe they should just rename the terms like a trading app.

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        In my country it is not expected to tip. Not in restaurants and not in delivery. Just pay your fucking employees. It’s not that hard.

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          i know, that doesn’t matter though does it, if you engage with a gig economy it doesn’t matter what the tipping system is in your country. your food order is essentially a job that anyone can choose to pick up or not pick up, and because the payment rates are so low from uber and the like they will only take orders with good tips.

          so basically, if you don’t want to tip, don’t engage with gig economy companies. but if you do engage with gig economy companies you have to tip.

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            They can choose to pick up a job or not. I can choose whether I want to pay extra because the employer doesn’t want to pay them fairly. Just because the driver is exploited by their employer doesn’t mean that has to roll down to me.

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              What I’m trying to tell you, is that if you don’t tip, your order won’t get picked up. or on some platforms, the drivers will be forced to pick up because their reject rate is too high, so essentially by not tipping, but still engaging with the platform, you are costing the gig workers money.

              it’s pretty simple, if you don’t want to tip, don’t use these platforms, which is good it shows a strong message that you don’t want these kind of platforms to exist. but if you do use these platforms, and you dont’ tip. then you are just taking advantage of the gig workers like the companies are. you might think that the companies should give the gig workers more money, but they won’t, and you are enabling them to not do that.

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        At that point it’s not a tip it’s a delivery charge… just call it what it is.

        But they won’t because then they’d have to pay tax… Although the taxman is going to notice sooner or later anyway…

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    America’s whole tipping thing is a nightmare. Just make companies pay employees properly and if they can’t, maybe they shouldn’t be a business.

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      I swear to God, yesterday I was checking out at an online pharmacy and they asked if I wanted to tip. People are tipping for prescription medication now?!

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    The fact I’m getting asked to leave a tip before the service is rendered is what drives me really nuts. I’ve tipped on things and got terrible service and there is no way to adjust your tip down (and it can even be hard to increase it if they really do go above and beyond in some way).

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      It’s very easy to increase the tip.

      Tip in cash. Never use the app to tip. When the item gets to you have a cash tip ready, if you want to tip. Nice thing about cash, if they don’t want to report the tip, there’s really no way to prove the tip was given.

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        I don’t keep an ATM in my bedroom, unfortunately.

        Only time I have cash for tipping is when I get tipped.

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        The best thing about gig deliveries is dropoff service imo. I never see the driver so cash isn’t an option. Uber eats at least makes it easy to adjust tips and I often do adjust if surprisingly early or if they forget a drink.

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    It bothers you even when you do tip. I always just tip 20% when I pay, before any service has happened, but I still get like 6 texts after my order has arrived asking me to “rate and tip!” “Don’t forget to tip your driver!!” “HEY FUCKER!! GIVE US ALL YOUR MONEY!!” Then at some point “Your driver says: Thanks for the tip! Don’t forget to rate your order from Jack in the Box!” I’m not going to fucking rate my food from Jack in the Box. It’s deep fried shame, it’s delicious and I don’t want to talk about it. Leave me alone please, it’s the middle of the night and I’m full of jalapeno poppers and onion rings and shame.

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      I don’t understand tipping delivery drivers percentage of the goods. If they aren’t involved in the restaurant making the food, why should I tip percentage of the tab. Should really be based on distance and amount of stuff delivered. I’ve started just opting to punch in dollar amounts that feel right to me.

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        I think it comes from the thinking that ordering more expensive food means you must have higher income to afford that, so you can also afford a higher tip.

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        That’s what I do with my drivers. Whether it’s 20 bucks or 11 or 15 I just do $5 if they’re cool with me and that’s usually the case

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    I killed all delivery nonsense a while ago. It was like 4 fees plus a demand for a tip on top of inflated prices; go to the restaurant and pay $15 or pay DoorDash $35 for the same shit? Fuck that, I’ll drive and pick my own damn food up.

    And bonus, if half of it gets eaten in the car - I mean “wasn’t given to me by the restaurant”, sorry - at least I’m the one who ate the damn thing.

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      Except now you’re supposed to tip on pickup orders. I am feeling so much tripping fatigue.

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      I used one of those shit delivery services twice. First time they completed fucked my order and I had to drive to the restaurant to get it fixed. Second time the food literally never arrived and I called the restaurant who said it was picked up. Took me an hour of playing phone tag with a bunch of super unhelpful morons and then I still had to go over from a completely different restaurant to get food.

      Never again.

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    Tips help the company a lot more than the worker. If everyone decides to just be an asshole for a while and stop tipping, the workers being exploited will quit, and companies will be forced to pay actual living wages to attract/retain workers.

    But that’s not going to happen because the social pressure of tipping is just too strong… and I say that as someone who is part of the problem by always leaving a tip :/

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    Don’t want to pay your employees a decent wage? No need to worry, that’s for the customers to sort out!

    American tipping culture is off the rails, and business owners are rejoicing, I bet.

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    Their fees and tipping finally got me to stop using the service at all. So many times a $10 tip would be left only for my food to show up an hour later and cold. It just stopped being worth it. Half the “drivers” are on foot or e-scooters at this point and the food is destroyed by the time it gets there.

    I’m sure I’m not the only one coming to this conclusion too. The prices keep going up and the quality goes down

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      Absolutely! I finally took DoorDash off my phone when I realized how they were slowly increasing the price of each part of the service over time. What started as a reasonable service for a reasonable price has turned into a game of boiling the frog without him noticing the heat is rising. I noped out hard.

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        My coworkers are doing a doordash lunch once a week and I was ok-ish with until my fav sandwich cost me twice as much as the restaurant price. Later that week I got an email from said coworkers informing us that we were having DISCOUNTED food because they bought a doordash pass which has since expired and we need a new one to keep the prices low. This was the end of it for me.

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    I view tipping as a form of hostage payment, I’ll tip you today so you don’t mess with my food tomorrow. My highschool time showed me how vulnerable people’s food was to the whims of teenagers.

    When a app nudges for tipping I just think they haven’t set the right price for the service.

    Luckily I live in a place without a tip culture now, so relaxing to know how much things actually cost.

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    I think wages should be increased and tip if the service is good, not force those employees to live off of only tips.

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    I always tip, but I’m pretty fucking over it from a company perspective. Doordash, Uber, and Grubhub are raking in INSANE profits while they stiff their workers.

    These companies shouldn’t be taking more than 1% or less of every transaction. Instead, they take a WAY larger cut. They do it in the worst possible way, too. There are layers of hidden fees - everything from menu items being secretly increased in price, to fees you don’t see until the final second that they discretely lump (hide) under the sales tax column.

    Fuck these companies.

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      So, all the food delivery companies operate at a loss still. They have bloated costs, spend to much to acquire customers, have to overpay/lose money on deliveries. It’s a shit business model. I really don’t get it. The fact is no one wants to pay what it should cost to pay for food delivery. Paying people a wage that makes it worth doing + supporting the corporate info structure just makes food delivery more expensive than people are willing to pay.

      If you’re going to point at the amount of money flowing through these companies, say revenue at least. Door dash had a -7.97% profit margin on their most recent figures. Somehow with billions in revenue they lose money. Maybe they’ll turn it around and be profitable, but I don’t see it happening. It’s a shit market. No one has brand loyalty, low barriers to entry, people only care who delivers the cheapest. No an industry I’d want to invest heavily in. Modern capitalism is all about establishing a brand loyalty and using it to force your competition out of business. Then screwing your customers.

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    We get asked for tips here in Australia where we have a minimum wage and no tipping culture - it’s rubbish because we don’t need to subsidise people’s income at all, but the app doesn’t differentiate countries customs it seems. Uber’s apps are the same always asking for tips despite minimum wage….

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      You’re tipping the driver and not the restaurant. The driver is making gig pay and not minimum wage.

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        The expectation though in Australia is that the employer (Uber etc) is paying fair compensation for the services provided so a tip is not necessary.

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        They are actually paid $25 an hour here in Australia- how is that only “gig money”?

        Again, tipping is not a thing in Australia and should never be expected by drivers who actually choose to do this sort of work….