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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • Picked myself up a crack den (not literally but might as well be) like 8 years ago. My dad built houses and taught me how to do most of the work so I bought a cheap place I knew I could eventually fix. Also in a fairly low COL area. So a shit house in a fairly cheap city in a cheaper housing market. It was either that or just accept never owning a house so I jumped on it and just barely scrape by.

    My mortgage payments cost me just as much as renting a slightly nicer house in my area so the point still stands that my friend is paying nearly as much for their vehicle per month as most people here pay in rent.


  • I’ve only ever bought like 20 year old used cars. I can’t even comprehend how anyone has enough money to afford a new car. It’s not even the price of the car itself, which is always absurd anyways, but the cost of insurance on a car that new and registration is also just insane. A friend of mine recently bought a car that was only 5 years old and their payments including insurance and everything are still almost as much as the mortgage on my house. It’s no wonder everyone is under water with their car loans.






  • How would a trump win help the genocide happening in Gaza??

    Is this the only thing any of you can say?

    No remotely sane person is saying trump would be better. That doesn’t mean the DNC isn’t fucking us over a barrel. Sitting around parroting “Hur dur but trump worse” is just enabling them. After trump there will be someone else and the DNC will just keep following the overton window to the right because they just need to keep pointing out that the other guy is worse. Plus all their online enablers will just shut down any discussion by repeating “well you must love trump if you don’t like the DNC stepping on your balls. Yum yum tasty boot.”

    Newsflash they will never give us RCV. RCV would take this new powerful tool of “but other guy worse” away from them and they are never going to sacrifice that power.









  • Honestly was in a somewhat similar situation with my best friend. They would be the one in your shoes except I’m the one with the house. We aren’t sharing a bed or having “not quite sex” but we are close enough and do enough “dating” activities togeather that most people think we’re dating and a few people still insist that what we’re doing is dating even when we both tell them that we aren’t. Your relationship is a bit closer so that will make things sting a bit more.

    The answer is to just talk to them. If you are comfortable enough to sleep with eachother then you should be comfortable enough to have difficult conversations. I would personally just start out by bringing up that you want to start dating again and ,while you don’t want to kick them out, sharing a bed isn’t going to work when you want to bring someone home.

    It’s going to sting for them; it did for me when my friend started dating again even when I knew us dating wasn’t going to happen. But, if they care about being your friend then, they’ll get over it; I did. Your relationship with them will change but not necissarily for the worse. Honestly I’m closer with my friend than ever. We’ve gone from being close best friends to practically being siblings. Hell, I’m closer with them than I ever was with any of my actual family. Yes we both date other people but that doesn’t mean we both don’t still share everything. Don’t try to put the relationship in a box. Be open and honest then just see how it grows/changes. At the same time, every relationship has boundries, don’t be afraid to set some.