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  • I’m not sure there are people so unrecoverable that they need a lifetime in solitary. I’m fact I’m not sure how you pass the cruel and unusual criteria with that. Even in super max prisons for people who WANT to go out and kill strangers for example, they are able to regularly socialize and exercise and have mental stimulation. So no I don’t think there are a lot of people where spending extra money to kill them would be “more humane”. Seems more like a straw man/hypothetical than a practical reality.



  • The comment about your wife is related to his comments about you beating him and breaking his arm. He’s decided you’re abusive and are part of the reason his childhood was so messed up. It probably helps him cope with a few things. For example he doesn’t feel guilty when he abuses you or your mom’s hospitality or generosity because you owe him. Anyways he decided that you’re abusive and so you probably beat up your wife worse than he does. It’s self protective, if you’re worse than him (he assaulted his wife and you kill yours) then he can still be a good guy in his own mind by comparison.

    He sounds pretty fucked up honestly, and his coping mechanisms are maladaptive. If you want to help him, reach out occasionally to let him know you’re there. Don’t give him money or things or a place to stay. He doesn’t see you as a role model, he sees you as someone who owes him Infinity for what you’ve done, meaning he can abuse you in significant ways and it’s all fair in his mind. You owe him for what you did.

    If he ever realises that he’s the problem in his life, and that to make his life better he needs to BE better, only then can you help him.

    You can’t help someone be better if they don’t want to be better.








  • Hacksaw@lemmy.catoScience Memes@mander.xyzDeficiencies
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    1 month ago

    Our communities are setup like that. We’re separated from eachother, and we can’t afford to spend enough time at local third places to feel community. Church also used to be central to community and most people aren’t religious, but nothing has replaced the churches role in community building.

    It’s rough. If you can get out to places nearby where people congregate that will be nice. Getting a dog is nice too if you like dogs, they give you love and accept your love and they’re a good ice breaker. They also force you out regularly. You can take the dog to dog parks and chat with locals.

    It’s not your fault. Humans are a social animal and we built cities and an economy that didn’t consider that.


  • Hacksaw@lemmy.catoLefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comFrench libs right now
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    How can it be any other way? The fewer little vote the more likely Trump is to win. In the American system not voting IS a vote for Trump.

    I’m sorry change is too slow for you. The first round of liberal/leftist victory is often crap. They barely win, or they don’t have his leftist candidates. Every election with a massive turnout on the left opens up space for leftist representatives. I think I’ve said this before. Change is slow. Right now the window is WAY over to the right. We have to bring it back by voting in droves until we’re represented. It’s simple math, but we keep losing because we don’t get what we want right away.

    If a new socialist party can work in the UK then more pretty to you. I know some European countries have 20 parties with elected representatives and the most any party can hope for is 20%. But in countries with two parties you have to change them from the inside. Each situation is s different battleground and we have to optimise our strategy. And we don’t win by attacking eachother for starting simple facts because they’re not true everywhere.


  • Hacksaw@lemmy.catoLefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comFrench libs right now
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    You’re playing yourself.

    It’s almost universal in the west that the higher the voter turnout the more left the government. Just look at France, first round, typical low turnout: far right won. Second round hight turnout massive: leftist win.

    Spoiling the ballot is just not voting. When I was young, I used to think that you could make a point by not voting, or by spoiling the ballot. By waiting until the perfect representative showed up. Then I saw elections where the winning party got 43% of the votes with 40% voter turnout. Then I realised that 17% of people just forced us into another garbage right wing government and that spoiling ballots wasn’t even reported in the news AT ALL.

    Vote EVERY TIME. It’s a tug of war, the harder you pull the more the whole thing shifts to your side. Look at the right in the US, this situation was impossible a decade ago, but they kept voting and the window kept shifting. And now it’s fucked up.

    Don’t let your side down just because some of the people pulling don’t agree with you on where we should stop. Pull your weight, we can’t accept fascism.


  • Hacksaw@lemmy.catoLefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comFrench libs right now
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    It’s your local representative, as in he represents your area and his job is generally to bring more money to your area. They don’t represent your political views. For that you need to pull your weight at the election to open up space for views more aligned with yours at the elected body level (example the house or senate for national elections). You might be surprised to hear this but MOST of politics is deciding what money to collect and where to spend it. A TINY percentage is what most people consider “political” stuff. When it comes to that, when you pull your weight you open up space for different views that are better aligned with how you think. It’s not about how YOUR representative thinks, it’s about how the entire house and Senate think. Your representative will generally be pushed to agree with the overall party position or risk being replaced.

    If we all pulled our weight the elections would look like this. How many more progressives and leftists enter the ticket in this world? How many Bernie Sanders, AOCs and Ilhan Omars? Or whatever your political views are (scared to ask honestly)…

    Pull your weight today, or drop the rope and be unrepresented for another round of elections.

    You edited your comment from “so who represents me” to “third party okay”. Third party is like attaching a new rope and pulling to the side. You’re not doing much. Maybe better than nothing, but often not.


  • Hacksaw@lemmy.catoLefty Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comFrench libs right now
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    Stop thinking about it like you need to vote for someone to represent your views because that’s NEVER how it worked. It’s a tug of war, everytime you don’t vote you’re letting your side down.

    Just because not everyone pulling with you agrees on where to stop pulling doesn’t mean you get to drop the rope.