Its not just one’s job. Its also often one’s genetics. Some people seem to naturally gain muscle when they do those labor intensive jobs and some people tend to be very lean even when they try to buff up.

The cynicism is not based on nothing. I don’t crave being toxic. I crave intellectual challenge and general positivity.

The cynicism is born of experiencing reality. Particularly one where I’m a neurological minority among incurious people, people who engage in motivated reasoning, and people so motivated by avarice that they simply lie.

The following quote applies to my offline experience in an allistic dominated world: “I was ashamed of myself when I realised life was a costume party and I attended with my real face” ― Franz Kafka

I now simply play the game now, and fairly well. I still hate it though.

Online, I don’t need to worry about playing allistic games or worry about catastrophic social consequences of being my blunt and honest self. I can dissect things, and try my best to learn how far the ugliness goes.

Here’s an interesting example you just gave me. I don’t think that and never said as much.

It was more or less said when you stated the very premise of “Soft Skills are hard to teach”. But sure, I took a very unnuanced interpretation, that’s my bad.

Now to the example. It’s extremely frowned upon in a conversation to affirm what others think, when they haven’t explicitly expressed so themselves. Specially when the other person is still a complete stranger. It could be interpreted as hostility or an attempt to misrepresent other people’s positions in order to attack them.

I’m not on lemmy to practice soft skills. To be clear: I’m not exactly hostile, just cynical and impatient.

Humans literally evolved highly social minds entirely to rapidly develop soft skills.

You think most people lack soft skills because you placed additional effort into developing them and likely had the head start most average human beings get. Its rare that people start at zero, but some very much do.

I did.

Hard skills are easier to teach,

Hard skills are either easy to teach or virtually impossible. It depends on the person. That isn’t to say most people are incapable of learning: its that most people are fundamentally incurious or unmotivated, and teaching an incurious person is fucking impossible unless money is on the line for them.

while soft skills are very hard.

Most people have very little difficulty getting very good at soft skills very early on in life. If you haven’t learned them, you are in a minority. These two are likely in a minority psychological/neurological profile.

Petty reason: They spoiled something I wanted to watch/read/play knowing full well my hatred of spoilers. Had this happen: I was actively in the process of playing through the Mass Effect series and a person gave me a massive spoiler. I’ve cut that person off and never wish to speak to them. They could not apologize and receive forgiveness if they tried, they might as well move on with their lives.

Non-personal reason: I would be hard if not impossible for me to forgive someone for having been an eligible voter in the US 2024 elections and having not voted for Harris.

There are many terrible things I’ve experienced and awful things I myself have done, but funnily enough I can forgive others and myself for them pretty easily. I think I usually can’t forgive someone if they stubbornly take the stance that they know what is best for me in said actions or if they were sadistic enjoyment, petulance, or hatred. But actions taken in the moment of heightened emotion, desire, desperation, I tend to be very forgiving about if they ask for forgiveness, even if the acts themselves are often considered pretty extreme by most people.

I can’t really tell you much more about it without outing my embarrassing and likely in a few cases socially obvious questions.

The most I can say is giving it some details about an encounter or series of encounters and asking it to clarify if it thinks some or other courses of action are reasonable or socially acceptable or advisable. And whether I’m imagining things or if there was “something there” if someone may or may not be flirting for instance.

And some other things that I will not be revealing here.

TBH, I’m an autistic male and using AI for dating advice has 100% helped me get laid (still working on a stable partner though). Not because its super smart, but because I can rapidly ask multiple questions I’d be otherwise unable to ask a human without incredible and crippling embarrassment and get answers that are “good enough” if a tad broad or obvious probably to most people.

But as a broad trend, I’ll admit that is a little worrying.

If I wanted to be pedantic, I’d point out that no one truly deserves anything. (good or bad)

But casually speaking, I agree with the Reeves, Devito, & Perlman mentions in other posts. I’d also add Dolly Parton, Don Cheadle, & John Oliver.

They seem like genuinely sweet and well intentioned people.

I would be so happy to be living in a part of Canada.

The only thing going here is that, as the tin foil hat people say, there is no such thing as “ex-CIA”.

I will be voting, I want decent hospice care for my country.

I am powerless in comparison to mass stupidity.

But also the government could also turn me into red mist if it wanted.

There aren’t any good outcomes for the US for the next few decades. Just bad and worse. I’ll be long dead before any real improvement happens.

Man its really hard to enjoy good news these days when you know the grim reality of your own country’s future… and what could have been.

Its consciousness, not conscience. Conscience is specifically one’s moral awareness.

Also its closer to 4 billion years.

That said, I understand her anger about stupid people. And people who slut shame can die in a fire.

AI is good for quickly generating “realistic enough” stat sheets for pen and paper campaigns. Not for actual research that effects people.

Why not foster hope through science? Religion is unneeded for that.

Plus, if the situation was hopeless scientifically, the kid would be better off accepting reality than to endlessly hope for something that will never come. Just build with what he can instead of daydreaming about what can’t be.

The Communists Have the Music

Would you prefer I simply consider you an intellectual coward? I’m not sure which would be worse.