why i want one

  1. i’m a human
  2. ass is nice
  3. giving and receiving affection is nice
  4. connections feel amazing
  5. idk how else to have a family
  6. i want to get a relationship so i can stop caring about this part of my life, so i can focus on work
  7. i think i’ll never be happy otherwise

why i don’t want one

  1. idk. i just avoid it. it’s an urge.
  2. maybe it will make my life and me too real.
  3. rn i am free to be in or live anywhere, so i live kinda everywhere. she probably will want my commitment to a city. but i am ok with that.
  4. in most if not all species, men become stupid because of women. spider men are eaten by spider women after they mate. i worry i will pick a bad woman to be stupid for.
  5. it is illogical and self destructive to let an external being have power over my happiness, health, satisfaction, human experience… especially if this being is heavily influenced by tech companies (instagram, facebook, apple), media (hollywood, netflix, movies, shows, music), governments, religions and her friends who are also heavily influenced.
  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    You don’t want a relationship. You want a fuck buddy and there is nothing wrong with that if you can find someone that shares the same values. Don’t lead someone on when they do want a relationship and you just want a fuck buddy. Just be up front with what you want and put yourself out there and someone will find you.

      • ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.orgEnglish
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        3 days ago

        Look up “friends with benefits” and “situationships”. You only meet for sex or a little romance. Very different from the kind of committed relationships you associate with the terms like “bff”, “girlfriend” or “marriage”. They aren’t neccessarily bad or immoral, just make sure to set boundaries first so each of you knows how to feel about polyamory etc.

        • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          3 days ago

          Also polyamory is not required for friends with benefits type of arrangement. There are plenty of people that have monogamous set ups that are still classified as friends with benefits. This is mainly done for safety from STDs and such. It’s just that nether party wants relationship responsibility of caring for your partners emotional needs.

            • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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              3 days ago

              I didn’t say you didn’t but you don’t want commitment or the burden of a relationship as you put in your cons category. What you want based on what you said was you want intimacy and sexual connection but after you had your fill. You want the other person to fuck off and leave you alone. That by definition is a friend with benefits. They come hang out and if you both want to. you do intimate things then you or they leave.

                • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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                  3 days ago
                  1. maybe it will make my life and me too real.
                  2. in most if not all species, men become stupid because of women. spider men are eaten by spider women after they mate. i worry i will pick a bad woman to be stupid for.