why i want one

  1. i’m a human
  2. ass is nice
  3. giving and receiving affection is nice
  4. connections feel amazing
  5. idk how else to have a family
  6. i want to get a relationship so i can stop caring about this part of my life, so i can focus on work
  7. i think i’ll never be happy otherwise

why i don’t want one

  1. idk. i just avoid it. it’s an urge.
  2. maybe it will make my life and me too real.
  3. rn i am free to be in or live anywhere, so i live kinda everywhere. she probably will want my commitment to a city. but i am ok with that.
  4. in most if not all species, men become stupid because of women. spider men are eaten by spider women after they mate. i worry i will pick a bad woman to be stupid for.
  5. it is illogical and self destructive to let an external being have power over my happiness, health, satisfaction, human experience… especially if this being is heavily influenced by tech companies (instagram, facebook, apple), media (hollywood, netflix, movies, shows, music), governments, religions and her friends who are also heavily influenced.
  • andros_rex@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    1. are you employed?

    2. do you have your own place?

    3. are you able to meet standard hygiene practices (regular showers, brushing teeth, cleaning your clothing and your sheets regularly)?

    4. are you able to carry on a normal conversation with a man? a woman? (the way you talk about women in this post makes me wonder if you talk to them in a way that makes it obvious that you just want to fuck them - this will immediately torpedo any chance you have with the vast vast majority of women)

    5. do you have interests and hobbies outside of the internet and video games?

    6. are you socially and emotionally developed enough to not share extreme or odd opinions in inappropriate contexts?

    If the answer to any of those is “no” - that’s what you want to work on.

      • andros_rex@lemmy.world
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        3 days ago

        Probably, yes. It’s fine to like video games and shit posting online, but as someone’s only hobbies - well, for one it doesn’t make you stand out. Pretty much all men play video games as a major hobby.

        It’s not that playing video games is bad but if that’s the first and only hobby you can name, it gives the impression that you’re the kind of person who spends all day trash talking on Rainbow Six or something.

        A creative/productive hobby will make you infinitely sexier. I bet if you knit or crochet in public, you can even get a woman to approach you. Cooking is also another great one, and gives you a great excuse to invite someone over.

        Like, trying to grow yourself will be beneficial whether you find a partner or not. Be the kind of person you would find interesting and want to be around.