I’d like to start an instance about “bragging”. It’d be an instance to celebrate small wins. Like “I did a thing I’ve been dreading!” I’m almost positive I have ADHD despite that my mother never bothered to have me checked because fuck me, im just a problem right? Well I’d like to set up an instance for people to kind of celebrate doing the things that we absolutely hate doing. “I got my house refinanced and saved $40 a month!” Awesome! I bet that took a lot of effort! Good on you doing the thing!
My doctor said if I have ADHD, that it’s not bad enough to do anything about. And I’ve heard stories of others getting the same thing. So it would be more of a positive support group for people who struggle with those types of things. Like, when I get happy about doing/finishing something mundane, people are like “uh …cool” cause they don’t get the struggle of doing something so mundane. It’s so much of a struggle that others don’t understand. So when you struggle with this kind of thing, saying “I cleaned the bathroom” gets a response like “that sucks” but that was a win for this person. I want a place for people to brag about knocking things off their never-ending list, to celebrate the win, even if it’s nothing to others.
So my question is how do I do this? How do I make a new instance?
Edit: just to stave off the main communication issue, I meant community, not Instance. If anyone has voyager and has done it can help, that’d be great. And I appreciate all help, both previous to the edit and after. Thank you all for the much more supportive place than reddit.
As many people suggested, you dont need an instance but a community.
But i wanna go over something else in your post.
Describing your experiences it sounds like youre dealing with some tough times. Please make sure you’re safe and try to get help if possible. You can do a lot of different things from here.
There are a lot of mental health centric communities already which should all federate with your current instance. Make sure to check them out.
What will probably also help if you have some hurt to deal with is a safe space where peeps dont troll you for stuff that happened to you. There are many chats that provide a safe space to talk about stuff. Sadly, they are on proprietary platforms mostly. But you could be the person to make eg a matrix chat to discuss such things.
In any case, good luck and lmk if you need more info.
I appreciate the concern, I just want a place where people can celebrate their little wins. It’s not a replacement for therapy, I understand that, nor do I need full on therapy just because doing taxes is excruciating even if someone else does it. Basically if it doesn’t feel like a want, or a very basic NEED, it feels like I’m being punished for no reason. Like taxes. Taxes should be so ridiculously easy, but no, you need several pieces of paper and several hours of commitment and why? The why is the problem. Fuck you, I’m paying you, you do my taxes and I’ll sign the check, ya know?
I don’t want it to turn into a tax conversation because that’s entirely different, and this is just an example . It’s the strength to do the things you have to, that feel like labotomy for no reason other than “that’s what we do”.
So while I appreciate your concerns for mental health (which are totally valid btw because my mental health is in dire straights because of other things going on, but that’s unrelated to ADHD, and entirely based on the current US state of affairs) but this would be a positive community based on encouragement and positivity. Again, unlike upliftingnews, it’s about uplifting personal stuff.
Fundamentally, I just want to know how to find the button to start it on voyager, because I’m still a bit lost as a contributor. I want to help people who can use the encouragement that would’ve helped me when I was struggling with the “why” part.
I sympathize. Taxes suck even where I live and I know of places where this stuff gets a lot worse. Fundamentally, taxes only suck because someone wants them to suck. If you look at [email protected] you might see a pattern.
But back to your topic: I think “personalwins” or something would work. if you want it to be easy to find for the mainstream, you can look up the likely name on reddit and then search for or make such a community here. Why reddit? You might ask. It’s easy. Lemmy has A LOT of ex redditors and more are flocking in and the more familiar at least some stuff is, the easier the onboarding. just thinking ahead here. It will also make people find your comm easier.
Voyager should have a new community button somewhere although I dont know how world handles the making of a new comm. Maybe someone can answer that. Also, voyager has its own community where you can ask about tipps and tricks.
And in terms of mental health again: I still suggest a place where you can rant and not get shunned for it. It’s worth a lot. There is an autism community with a matrix chat which is nice (no need to tell me you do or dont have it, its just an example) but the question is if there is a chat for adhd folks. I think there is but not sure. Feel free to check out the community.
Good luck
Hey thanks for that. I appreciate the additional tips.
You’re right that it would be easier to name it in a way that reddit already has a sub, so that there’s a way to snipe searchers.
I agree a rant page would also be worthwhile, as I basically already used it without it being there. That would actually be a really fun community if moderated properly. Honestly, that’s a great idea for everyone. If I can get this specific comm going reasonably well, I’d love to make or be part of a ranting page with no judgement, just a place to vent.