I’d like to start an instance about “bragging”. It’d be an instance to celebrate small wins. Like “I did a thing I’ve been dreading!” I’m almost positive I have ADHD despite that my mother never bothered to have me checked because fuck me, im just a problem right? Well I’d like to set up an instance for people to kind of celebrate doing the things that we absolutely hate doing. “I got my house refinanced and saved $40 a month!” Awesome! I bet that took a lot of effort! Good on you doing the thing!
My doctor said if I have ADHD, that it’s not bad enough to do anything about. And I’ve heard stories of others getting the same thing. So it would be more of a positive support group for people who struggle with those types of things. Like, when I get happy about doing/finishing something mundane, people are like “uh …cool” cause they don’t get the struggle of doing something so mundane. It’s so much of a struggle that others don’t understand. So when you struggle with this kind of thing, saying “I cleaned the bathroom” gets a response like “that sucks” but that was a win for this person. I want a place for people to brag about knocking things off their never-ending list, to celebrate the win, even if it’s nothing to others.
So my question is how do I do this? How do I make a new instance?
Edit: just to stave off the main communication issue, I meant community, not Instance. If anyone has voyager and has done it can help, that’d be great. And I appreciate all help, both previous to the edit and after. Thank you all for the much more supportive place than reddit.
Since you got the answer you were looking for. I’d like to address this:
My doctor said if I have ADHD, that it’s not bad enough to do anything about.
That response is just awful. How would they know? If they knew the bare minimum about these types of conditions, then they would never say anything like that (i.e. masking symptoms to try to ‘fit in’ and such). Otherwise, if they don’t know enough about the subject, then they shouldn’t be acting like they do. A doctor should be familiar with saying something like “let me look into that more.”
Undiagnosed and unmanaged ADHD (and/or autism and general anxiety disorder, which are comorbidities) leads to a drastic increase of the likelihood of developing drug abuse and addiction, and even an increase in mortality rates and decreased life expectancy (link) among other issues.
Oof, you’re not wrong there! But with rfk running around wanting a “database”, I’m not about to even mention the topic atm. Regardless of whether or not there’s an argument of whether ADHD belongs on the scale, I’m trying to be as anonymous as possible for the time being.
/c/smallvictories
I like the idea. Post the address when you kick it off!
As many people suggested, you dont need an instance but a community.
But i wanna go over something else in your post.
Describing your experiences it sounds like youre dealing with some tough times. Please make sure you’re safe and try to get help if possible. You can do a lot of different things from here.
There are a lot of mental health centric communities already which should all federate with your current instance. Make sure to check them out.
What will probably also help if you have some hurt to deal with is a safe space where peeps dont troll you for stuff that happened to you. There are many chats that provide a safe space to talk about stuff. Sadly, they are on proprietary platforms mostly. But you could be the person to make eg a matrix chat to discuss such things.
In any case, good luck and lmk if you need more info.
I appreciate the concern, I just want a place where people can celebrate their little wins. It’s not a replacement for therapy, I understand that, nor do I need full on therapy just because doing taxes is excruciating even if someone else does it. Basically if it doesn’t feel like a want, or a very basic NEED, it feels like I’m being punished for no reason. Like taxes. Taxes should be so ridiculously easy, but no, you need several pieces of paper and several hours of commitment and why? The why is the problem. Fuck you, I’m paying you, you do my taxes and I’ll sign the check, ya know?
I don’t want it to turn into a tax conversation because that’s entirely different, and this is just an example . It’s the strength to do the things you have to, that feel like labotomy for no reason other than “that’s what we do”.
So while I appreciate your concerns for mental health (which are totally valid btw because my mental health is in dire straights because of other things going on, but that’s unrelated to ADHD, and entirely based on the current US state of affairs) but this would be a positive community based on encouragement and positivity. Again, unlike upliftingnews, it’s about uplifting personal stuff.
Fundamentally, I just want to know how to find the button to start it on voyager, because I’m still a bit lost as a contributor. I want to help people who can use the encouragement that would’ve helped me when I was struggling with the “why” part.
I sympathize. Taxes suck even where I live and I know of places where this stuff gets a lot worse. Fundamentally, taxes only suck because someone wants them to suck. If you look at [email protected] you might see a pattern.
But back to your topic: I think “personalwins” or something would work. if you want it to be easy to find for the mainstream, you can look up the likely name on reddit and then search for or make such a community here. Why reddit? You might ask. It’s easy. Lemmy has A LOT of ex redditors and more are flocking in and the more familiar at least some stuff is, the easier the onboarding. just thinking ahead here. It will also make people find your comm easier.
Voyager should have a new community button somewhere although I dont know how world handles the making of a new comm. Maybe someone can answer that. Also, voyager has its own community where you can ask about tipps and tricks.
And in terms of mental health again: I still suggest a place where you can rant and not get shunned for it. It’s worth a lot. There is an autism community with a matrix chat which is nice (no need to tell me you do or dont have it, its just an example) but the question is if there is a chat for adhd folks. I think there is but not sure. Feel free to check out the community.
Good luck
Hey thanks for that. I appreciate the additional tips.
You’re right that it would be easier to name it in a way that reddit already has a sub, so that there’s a way to snipe searchers.
I agree a rant page would also be worthwhile, as I basically already used it without it being there. That would actually be a really fun community if moderated properly. Honestly, that’s a great idea for everyone. If I can get this specific comm going reasonably well, I’d love to make or be part of a ranting page with no judgement, just a place to vent.
I’m not sure you need/want to spin up an entire instance for a single community. You sure can though if that’s what you really want to do.
Setting up a community is far easier. Just pick the instance you feel is the right fit, think about the rules and guidelines of that community, sounds like you already have a mission.
If its a community you want just login via a browser and at the top click the link
Create Communityand your nearly done.Spinning up an instance is a lot more involved, it’s running an entire server. Could be a neat project though and i don’t want to discourage you from that at all. If an instance is what you want to do i’ll see if I can find a guide for you.
It sounds more like you want to create a new community on an existing instance.
Setting up a new community can be as easy as clicking the new community button and filling in the fields.
Setting up a whole instance of Lemmy (like lemmy.world, which you’re on, or aussie.zone, which I’m on) is way more involved than you’re probably thinking - buying a domain name, figuring out hosting, installing the Lemmy software, and a whole lot more.
You’re right, I meant community.
Do you mean to creating a community? There’s a button in the header navigation to do that. An entire instance would be overkill.
Although, you might consider checking out [email protected] and [email protected]. Those seem like the sort of vibe you’re going for.
Yes, community is what I meant. The dull things don’t feel like the right feel. This is less about just being boring and a normal human doing lame shit, and more of a support system encouraging those effects. I may be having troubles explaining the difference, but those communities are more about chores than struggles.
Those things that feel like torture to people with ADHD, not just being boring. There’s a huge difference.
Ah, I think I understand. Although, my take on those dullster communities is that they’re less about being a boring human but more of a recognition that a lot of tasks are pretty mundane but deserve a place to be discussed/celebrated. There may be value to be found in posting your successes and discussing them.
I don’t know of any communities that are specifically about what you’re looking for, but I guess you could also check in [email protected] and ask.
community is what I meant.
Click the create community button.
Where?
Log in to the Lemmy.world website to create a community. I think it’s not yet possible using Voyager.
Thank you! This is the answer I was looking for! Not to take away from the others, before I made the clarification. But this is the answer I was looking for. Thank you.
To be completely honest, I suggest getting to know Lemmy first. Trying to run a community when you can’t even figure out how to create one is a sign that you’ll run into other even bigger walls. It’s definitely like trying to run before you can even walk.
I ran 2 subs on reddit concurrently by myself. Literally the only thing I’m looking for is how to start it, not run it. The bottleneck is where to find such information, because honestly, it was pretty easy on reddit. Literally all I’m asking is how to start it.
You don’t need an instance, just a community.
Sorry, I may still be getting used to the lingo. But yeah, I meant community.
