Please don’t tell me “see a therapist” I know that already.
Do you think she is able to change her mind? If not, maybe it’s not worth trying to refute whatever she can say or think.
I was still a child when I realized my mom and I would never agree on much. At first, I tried hard to force to understand my point of view on whatever was at stake, no realizing the contradiction between ‘understanding’ and ‘forcing’. I was barely a teen when I realized that contradiction and that it was useless to insist. It mattered even less that back then I knew for a fact I would not be spending my life with her, also I know I could spend time people with whom I felt… more welcomed/understood. Back in the 70s and early 80s, it was simpler for young kid to spend time outside of the house, even with perfect strangers… No idea how hard it has become for kids nowadays but I’m afraid this won’t help them find some peace and hope (as a child, my life was more painful within my family than with any of those strangers I met outside and spent as much time as I could with).
Man I haven’t seen this many people slam OP’s mom since the Great OP’s Mom Slamming of ‘03.
This entire thread is a gigantic Yo Momma joke, only real
Tell your mom I don’t see her value, she should consider seizing existence at my most earliest convenience. Seems fair?
Mostly joking but wtf is this cruel take from her? I’m sorry if you’re having to battle this with her if you’re struggling with things like depression anxiety
Measuring people by what they can give to others or to capitalism is utterly wrong. EVERYONE has value to someone else.
Fuck off mum
Nothing you say will influence that level of callous, cruel, self-centered, unempathetic evil. I would say nothing and never talk to her again. Ultimately, a person can only change themselves, and she has chosen to be monstrous. She is more likely to influence you than you are to influence her, because you can see beyond yourself and she does not.
Who decides what’s valuable? She probably isn’t valuable under certain metrics. She thinks broken legs are being lazy?
Can’t ban chemtrails but you can reduce contrails which play a weirdly large part in warming up the planet irrespective of fuel consumed.
Just putting the word out for an underrated climate thingy.
I think I remember something about the clouds caused by massive container ships going away because they outlawed to really cheap crude oil their engines used. But the clouds actually had a cooling effect on the plant because the clouds reflected more light than the ocean. So some people are experimenting with spraying salt water into the air from these ships so the salt will create nucleation points for the clouds.
All this to say is coulds good, fossil fuels bad.
My rebuttal: eat shit you fucking bigot
You cannot teach adults why they should care.
You cannot logically rebut a bad worldview. Plant seeds of doubt, protect yourself, and move on.
Your mom’s view toward mental health is backwards and unhelpful. Her way of thinking prevents people from getting the counseling, medicine, and / or guidance they need for their mind. Next time she has a physical injury, she should just suck it up and stop being lazy.
That’s the thing, “its all in your head” they say… or “doctors are lying”…
Ugh… boomers… (not actual boomers, but boomer mindset i mean)
She’s right about one thing, it really is all in your head. Just like knee pain in all in your knee. Or stomach pain is all in your “stomach.”
Physical pain is easier to relate to. If you suffer from a physical injury, people can see it and readily put themselves in your shoes—even if they have never experienced the injury themselves. No need to explain a broken bone, sympathy comes easy.
Mental anguish and disorder are much harder to relate to because there’s nothing to point to. You can’t expose your brain in a meaningful way where others can obviously see that something is wrong. Unlike physical pain, unless someone experiences the same mental issue, there’s nothing to relate to.
Worse, others use their own mental health experience as the baseline for how everyone thinks or feels. This further clouds their ability to relate, making it difficult for them to care.
Ask someone in your family for help in getting diagnosed by a pro. Be honest with the Dr. and follow their guidance. With luck, your health will improve and your relatives will witness this, enlightening them a little.
Good luck.
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It’s projection. She knows that in her retirement she has stopped “providing value”. I doubt she paid you for the ad-hoc legal and accounting work you did for her, so she is happy for you to provide value without compensation. I would simply tell her that if she doesn’t want to have to find her own retirement home she needs to start paying for your services. This is the kind of person who thinks value is what you pay for, so long as she isn’t paying you she isn’t valuing what you do for her. The whole “you are a negative value” is exactly what she is to you, she is taxing your time, energy and emotions to make up for some perceived economic loss for raising a child she chose to have.
That is exactly what this is. Perfectly said.
I hope your parents are divorced and you can stay with your dad. If not, find someone else to stay with. Your mom is about as healthy as HIV.
You’re mom’s an awful eugenics supporting cunt who isn’t worth speaking to and you would be better off cutting all contact than even looking at her.
That’s not even a stretch: mentally devaluing others is literally the first step toward building ovens. Glad to see you called it out.
