If you’re going to “chase your dreams,” it might be a good idea to first figure out whether they actually really are yours.
Also research the downside first. Some “dream jobs” are marketed that way for a reason.
Put your money where you spend your time. Don’t spend money on something if you won’t be using it.
You spend a lot of time sleeping, so get a nice, comfortable mattress. Spend a lot of time on your feet at work? Get durable, comfortable shoes/boots, and maybe some nice insoles so you don’t limp back to your car from pain. Spend a lot of time playing a F2P video game? Go ahead and buy that DLC or cosmetic item to make it more fun, and support the devs to keep the game going.
The list can go on, but before any non-trivial purchase, I ask myself how much time I will spend using it.
Agreed and agreed. But an addendum regarding mattresses: No matter what the salespeople tell you, most mattresses with pocketed coil springs are pretty much the same apart from hardness, especially with a compensating mattress topper. Just get one that feels right to you, definitely don’t think that more expensive=better, mattress-wise.
More money advice: Most things come in two tiers worth purchasing: “nice” and “wow”.
“Nice” are the things experts deem good enough, or clothes-wise ones that you can see yourself actually wearing across multiple years, both durability- and appearance-wise. Affordable, and you like them. A useable placeholder, if you will.
“Wow” are the things that you’ve been steadily dreaming of for years, or ones that catch your eye even if you weren’t looking. “Buy it for life” stuff. Solid whole wood furniture, that teapot or coffee maker you’ve been dreaming of. A designer winter coat that only costs 20 times your old one. 🫣 On these you look at the price tag after; you want it, you get it, and if it breaks, you repair it. If it’s affordable, or if you find more than one of these every 1-3 years, consider yourself very lucky.
Nothing below “nice” is worth getting, and very few things between “nice” and “wow” are worth getting.
Yep, learned this the hard way.
- I ordered a 10€ “Skmei” watch from Aliexpress and it died in a year. My cousin buys ~30€ casio watches and they last at least 5 years of abuse.
- Cheap Redmi phones have half the processing power of a top end midranger and will not decently survive years of planned obsolescence. I only have a Redmi (4x from their decent times) because I got it for free from my dad. It’s a decent phone, but performance is terrible so they aren’t worth paying for from the longevity standpoint, but if you need a temporary phone they are decent.
Cleaning is a skill. Learn to like it young and never have a messy home.
And like all skills, will develop as you do it more and more. If you’re new to cleaning and you suck at it, don’t despair. Just keep trying.
Also, if you don’t have it in you or enough time in your day to do the right kind of cleaning, it’s better to do a half-assed clean today than none at all.
The best amount for me is five minutes, with a timer. When the timer goes off, I stop.
That’s my strategy for intimacy, too.
Man I wish I could last five minutes
If you see a toilet in your dreams, don’t use it!
Can’t confirm. I’ve had lucid dreams, where I’m aware that it’s a dream, but not in control.
Then I started just pissing everywhere. And I could feel my sweatpants getting soaked. And then I shit myself. And in the dream I’m panicing because I know it’s happening in real life. I’m very aware that when I wake up my sweatpants will be piss soaked, and I have shat myself. I can FEEL it happening as it happens. Then I wake up. No shit. No piss. Totally dry, and I IMMEDIATELY need to get to a bathroom. Where I shit and piss in the toilet.
And then I stand up, and there’s no shit or piss in the toilet. And I’m like “WTF??? Am I just groggy? What the hell is happening???”
Then the toilet starts talking. “FEED ME YOUR TASTY POOPS!!!” And I’m like what the fuck is going on? Am I on drugs???" And this toilet is getting angry that I won’t shit in it’s mouth. Then it starts stomping around like the piano from Super Mario 64.
Then I wake up, and IMMEDIATELY need to piss and shit. So I run to the toilet, and yell at the toilet “ARE YOU GOING TO DEMAND I SHIT IN YOUR MOUTH??? I KNOW YOUR TRICKS, TOILET!!!”
And thats when I hear my neighbors laughing, because the walls are thin, it’s 3AM, and they now think I’m crazy.
This has happened several times. I hope I never meet my neighbors.
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Do NOT invite anyone into your home that you do not know. And do NOT save someone from eviction and have them live with you if you only barely know them.
I just went through six months of hell with two freeloading pieces of shit who never cleaned up after themselves and almost never lifted a finger to help in the house — all while getting free room and board, free food, etc.
My kid happened to be friends with a kid whose 64 year old mother (kid was adopted) got evicted and we knew them in passing for a good decade. We were the ONLY ones to help, despite them being a part of a church with hundreds of people.
I now know exactly why no one helped them, and know exactly why they were evicted.
Just don’t do it. It’s not worth the stress and the money.
Seconded.
I had a mate who didn’t speak with his parents, lost his job and left his partner.
Took him in, rent free for 6 months. Got him on his feet, he got a new job and 6 months later he left… With my 10 year relationship. And my cat (but to be fair my ex was a vet so it made sense that she took him)
I thought he was a friend.
How nice of him, he took the trash out as he left.
If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.
I’m not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.
honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy
If you’re being hailed as a hero in the US and you aren’t a politician…
Run. Do not walk away, run. Society is absolving itself of caring for you after the inevitable sacrifice of your health and/or sanity.
