Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.

My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.

Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady’s dad for permission?

  • toynbee@piefed.socialEnglish
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    5 days ago

    I took my wife to a facility that was all about collaborative ring picking. It was no secret that I was going to propose; both she and I have always felt that the circumstances of the proposal could be a surprise, but the fact of and answer to the proposal shouldn’t be.

    I ended up proposing to her while she was carrying a pile of my underwear. It wasn’t on purpose - I didn’t even notice until she had said yes - but she described it as “very us.”

    With regards to budget, she and I discussed a range beforehand. We came up with a number that was nice but realistic for what we could afford at the time.

    With regards to asking permission, I didn’t feel it necessary. I did technically discuss it with her dad beforehand, but mostly for the ceremony of the thing. I doubt he even remembers the conversation. It can be a nice gesture to do so - most good dads would probably like it and many women would probably enjoy the gesture - but I don’t think it’s needed.