i hate being a girl so much, i wish i was born a male. male privilege exists and males will never understand that. they don’t have to worry about so many things, like periods, and the already negative side effects (suicidal thoughts, pain, hormonal imbalances, and other stuff). they don’t have to worry about going outside and being sexualize and objectified especially during the summer. they can wear whatever they want, whenever they want. they don’t have to worry about not being taken seriously. they don’t have to worry about special pressures like pregnancy, marriage and starting a family. why is it normal for males to climax, and women’s pleasure is stigmatized? why is it normal for males to call women degrading things like “female” or “removed”? why is inhumane porn normalized? like r^pe porn is rampant, how could you watch that, males are disgusting… why is birth control not pressured on males? why do males have an obesession with taking a woman’s virginity? why are women called “removed” or “sluts” for having a high body count, but males aren’t reprimanded? my life would be easier if i was born a male. males don’t care about woman’s pleasures and orgasming is stigmatized. males will impregnant women, and still leave them without even getting a slap on the wrist while the woman is reprimanded. males will never understand and educate themselves about feminism, because they dont have to. all males do is objectify women, watch violent, disgusting, unethical porn, never bat an eye when women are sexualized because al they see are sexual objects, and walk around with so much freedom and privilege. can you even be sexist and misandrist at this point? probably not. being a male is significantly more easier than being a woman. males will generalize woman and say dumb shit like “all FEMALES… xyz”. they can’t even say woman because they’re dipshits. but when women say “all men…” males will go batshit crazy! (they must be on their period) males will always find a way to blame women, too. why do male suicidal rates and depression exist? and other problems? because of the patriarchy… it hurts mostly women and toxic masculinity hurts males. but mostly women have more problems. i hate being a girl and i wish i was dead too. if i was born a male i’d never want to kill myself, id live everyday like it was my last…! males won’t ever have to worry about things like this, all they care about is ejaculation, sexuality and objectifying women, being toxic, narrow minded, and uneducated! male privilege exists, and i would kill for it. i want to kill myself for not being born a male, but i can’t because i’m scared. look at how they walk around… with no care in the world, so much privilege and freedom… males… be grateful you don’t have to worry about being pressured to start a family, get pregnant, and tolerate so much pain and the horrors of childbirth. males should be grateful they can wear whatever they want without being catcalled, sexualized, and objectified. males, be grateful that you’ll never be seen as pieces of meat. males, be grateful that you can have a high body count without being called a “slut” or “removed”. males be grateful that your virginity isn’t made into a big deal. males, be grateful that you are not unrepresented or misunderstood and portrayed falsely in the media. (hypersexualized , young, perfect, flawless). males be grateful that once you ejaculate, you don’t have to care about making your girlfriend orgasm. males, be grateful once you impregnant a girl, you can simply run away and not even get a slap on the wrist. males, be grateful that you are taken seriously and you’re not seen as “bossy” or “removed” when you’re assertive and standing your ground. males, be grateful you don’t have to worry about protection, r^pe, self defense, and walking alone at night. males, be grateful you’re not sexualized in seen as objects in the media. males, be grateful that you don’t have to worry about not being respected, and treated like a human. oh… males can suffer from depression and another mental health issues….? wow, their life is really is tough!!! women defend male’s issues all the time… in return for what? NOTHING. if you advocate for men’s “””issues””” all they do is ridicule you back. MALES WILL NEVER AND HAVE NEVER CARED ABOUT WOMENS ISSUES! being an incel is normalized, they aren’t reprimanded for it. i wish i was born a male… even a sliver of male privilege would keep me going…

  • weariedfae@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    Yeah … I’m sorry. It doesn’t get any easier. Over time you get beaten down and don’t have the luxury of putting energy into being angry about it. Like, your rage is on a low simmer on the back burner.

    Men are blissfully unaware of what pain they cause and what privilege they enjoy and anytime you try to bring up women’s issues they scream “not all men”. Because yes it isn’t all men but we’re not talking about those men in the first place.

    Talking about it here is likely to gain negative attention so I understand you’re venting but they’re not going to listen. It’s not impacting anyone. And it’s dangerous because while Lemmy is safer than reddit, you could still piss off the wrong person who might go after you. I’m sorry. There’s very little justice.

    I hear and acknowledge your pain.

  • Today@lemmy.world
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    12 days ago

    I’m glad I’m female and would not want to be male. Sure, there’s extra shit to deal with biologically, socially, familial; but they have some shit too and i don’t want to trade. Some of its age, learning to be comfortable in your own skin, and having male and female friends that you can talk with about different topics. The grass is rarely greener.

  • ThePowerOfGeek@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    I’m really sorry you’re in this situation. I can’t fully understand where you’re coming from because I can’t walk in your shoes. But I genuinely wish you the best. It sounds like you have a shit-ton of stress and are dealing with depression right now. I can relate to that part at least, and I really hope you can get some help from a counselor, because while they can’t help with some things, they can make a world of difference in other ways. Hopefully I don’t piss you off by saying this, but… sending you a virtual hug. Hang in there.

  • paddirn@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    I’m sorry about whatever you’re going/have gone through. I don’t mean to dismiss what you’re going through, but from my point of view as a guy, women hold much more power than men in our society. Some of the things you talk about are traditional social stigmas and such, things that only matter if you care what other people think or about “traditional values”, but they’re essentially meaningless outside of that and likely aren’t as big an issue as what you’re making them out to be. You’re also generalizing alot of things about what men do, say, or think, things that probably only apply to a fraction of men, and likely to men that even other guys don’t particularly like either. And in many other cases, the people who are shaming women for their behavior aren’t men, it’s other women that are stigmatizing women’s behavior or putting pressure on what their expectations are.

    In the dating world, women hold all the cards and basically have their pick of mates, whereas men are just happy to get any attention at all. In the court of law, where things hold much more weight, women hold much more advantages over men in issues related to divorce, child custody, child support, and are often given privileges by virtue of the fact that they’re women. Women can take half a man’s net worth just based on having been in a marriage contract with them, it doesn’t matter what kind of spouse they were.

    Men are generally ignored for large periods of our lives by everybody and are more or less expendable, we just don’t matter at all. Men are seen as pieces of meat, just in a different light, we’re donkeys or pack mules in many cases. Our feelings are often ignored, depression or any other emotions are brushed aside and made fun of as often by women as by men. We’re seen as simple-minded and only concerned with sex, we’re degenerate pigs who will always be guilty of any depravity we’re accused of.

  • Mammothmothman@lemmy.ca
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    12 days ago

    Maybe you need to look for some higher quality men. They exist out there, quietly letting go of the insane bullshit that the world heaps on them, taking their time to get what they need and lending help for others in need. Yes the world is full of fucking selfish disgusting morons who cant and wont see the world beyond the end of their dick but it’s not all bad out there. I know lots of good guys who care about the woman they have committed to loving and I hope that you can someday find yourself in a place where you can open your heart to accepting love. Reading what you wrote makes me think that you don’t practice self love. Care for yourself love yourself treat yourself with the respect you deserve. Don’t let the bastards drag you down.

  • xigoi@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
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    12 days ago

    Trust me, nobody being interested in you romantically/sexually is not as great as it sounds.