Hello,

I could use an online friend who wants to help me focus on what’s most important in life.

I wasted most of my last 15 years. In last year or so, I lost +30kg, started hiking, physiotherapy, weightlifting, therapy, social dancing. My life changed twice. Second change was almost too good to be true.

My todos are related to

  1. health (discipline, routine, self care),
  2. relationships (facing my fear or what I avoid, choosing right person(s)) and
  3. financial life (adding value to land I own, choosing a business to focus on).

I’m in my early 30s, straight M, and I am usually in EU. I can probably visit you if you are in EU.

  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    First, well done on all the improvements you’ve made to yourself. You should be proud not only of identifying what it was about yourself you wanted to improve, but also following through with it. Well done!

    I could use an online friend who wants to help me focus on what’s most important in life.

    …and…

    1. relationships (facing my fear or what I avoid, choosing right person(s))

    On the relationship side,

    A. Relationships are bidirectional - part would be showing care and concern for the person you’re looking to interact with. A friendship should be bi-directional. You’re stating what you want from the relationship here completely in divorced from anything your potential friend would want or need. Where are you showing concern and help for the person you want to be friends with? Why would someone want to be a friend if you’re starting the relationship with you just receiving, and not giving in return?

    B. Show value - Besides the attributes of being a breathing and speaking human (those have value too), what special talents or knowledge do you have that you can help your friend in achieving their goals?

    These are components for all relationship, but specifically for friendships too.

    • amksenin@lemmy.worldOP
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      2 days ago

      i mentioned i could visit this person even tho he is in a different country. is that nothing?

      • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        With the additional context of your post, it sounds like you would be willing to go to the other country to accomplish you goals for your benefit as that was the main thrust of your post as written.

        Communicate statements about what you’d like to do together with your new friend and how you can help them with their goals, then that statement about visiting is much more impactful to a new friend.