I live in Colorado and there are gulls here, we are far from the sea.

And who would ever use a childish word like “movie”? It’s called a moving picture.

While there might be an interesting philosophical and psychological debate to be had over the topic of being transracial, the problem with the debate is that most people who propose it are doing so in bad faith, as a gotcha, and that doesn’t lead to any meaningful discussion. I think that’s why it gets dismissed so quickly. I’m not sure if you’re one of those people.

The way I start to think about it is, we often conflate race with cultural identity, just as people conflate gender identity and sexual preference, so separating those might be a starting point. Racially, my family is Northern European white (Scottish and German with a smattering of French and Scandinavian) but culturally, my family is poor European immigrants who moved to America and settled in Appalachia 250+ years ago where they lived as farmers until my grandparents generation.

I’m not really sure where this thought experiment goes next and how that ties to gender, someone much smarter than me might be able to make sense of my ramblings. Either way, I don’t want to just dismiss what you have to say but since you have no history other than this post I can’t be sure you are not a bad actor looking for a gotcha.

I thought you were getting better at the insults and you went back to your tired old playbook. Must be my fault for thinking you might have had an original thought. Oh well, you’re boring now so I’m done for the evening. Good night and I hope you’re able to fix whatever is broken inside of you.

Good insult! It’s like you really tried this time. Maybe your dad would still love you if tried a little harder to not be so worthless.

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And I’m not sure how you’re able to use a computer with your head shoved so far up your own ass. Seems we both have questions this evening.

You came here to troll on an anonymous Internet forum and you’re not even brave enough to type your hate speech uncensored. Pathetic.

Gotcha. Yeah, credit card helped me and then I was fortunate enough that a family member was able to loan me money for the class, I used that money to do the secured loan and further build my credit. I paid said family member back when I got the collateral back from my credit union.

Not always or maybe not a high enough limit depending on what you want to buy. I had the same problem as OP about 6 years ago, I tried to borrow $3000 from my Credit Union to take a class and advance my career. They wouldn’t give me the loan so the options I was presented with were: a secured loan where I paid the full amount I wanted to borrow up front as collateral and then when I paid off the loan I got the collateral back (I didn’t have $3,000, hence the loan); or, I could sign up for a credit card with a $1000 limit.

Eh, my 78 year old aunt who uses two canes to get around because she refuses to use a walker has been to a few different protests this year in the deep red state of West Virginia. I get what you’re saying about limitations and maybe we’ll reach that point sooner or later but I don’t think we’re at the run away to save yourself part yet unless you’re an immigrant or trans.

I also understand wanting to get out before shit goes sideways but again, I don’t think we’re there yet. Maybe I’m wrong but I hope not.

I like to have a drink or two but wouldn’t say dates go smoother with a drink. It depends on the people and the location.

Dinner at a nice place, sure, one or two alcoholic drinks with dinner is common but absolutely not necessary. Going to a coffee shop or some other cafe type place for lunch, I wouldn’t drink alcohol in a situation like that. You could do a more active date, like hike or go to a local museum or zoo. Some people like to get a drink after a hike but again it’s not necessary to drink alcohol.

I always liked to do the more active date and then maybe a meal after and sometimes that meal will involve alcohol but I live in a bigger city so I can get a taxi or ride share if I need it.

I haven prescription sunglasses. Generally I don’t wear them inside, occasionally I’ll forget that I have them until after I’m in the store though. My eyesight without glasses is terrible so I leave them on. Sorry if I look like an asshole but I would have trouble navigating my way and finding what I need without them.

Bearded person here. My basic advice, stop using your body wash as shampoo, even 3-in-1. Find a quality shampoo and figure out a conditioning regimen. It’s different for everyone, some people use a traditional conditioner that you rinse out, some use oils, others use balms/waxes/butters, and generally some combination. I’m lazy so I’ve found a two product system for myself.

Oils/balms/butters/waxes are typically put on when the beard is damp, and they have different levels of hold. Some things to know about those products: apply the oils to your skin under the beard and then comb or brush it through; also, use a product with quality oils like jojoba, argan, and coconut.

Lastly, find someone who can style it the way you want or get clippers and watch some videos and style it the way you want.

Fish of Theseus

…I’m sorry

I feel bad for the men that get indoctrinated by this guy. Just like a lot of people that get taken in by religion, these people are looking for some understanding or change that really can only come from within but the church is promising that religion is the only way.

These men don’t understand that there is no black and white/ universal version of “manliness”. We all have to decide for ourselves what “being a man” means.

I go with a simple definition: as someone who was born a man and continues to identify as a man, my feeling is that, anything I do is “manly” because I am a man. Doesn’t matter if it’s sewing, hunting, or eating soup (which the preacher in the article seems to think is not manly)

That’s your opinion. I was a leashed child at one point in my life and I don’t care at all. It was pre cell phones so that argument doesn’t work either. It’s not about the parent not wanting to deal with their kid, it’s about them not wanting the kid to bother other people and to prevent toddlers from running off in large crowds.

My dog isn’t too derpy so she doesn’t do that sort of stuff often but I always remember one goofy moment. We were walking along and she was doing her thing, sniffing all the great sniffs to be had. We were walking on concrete when she stopped to sniff something, all I could see was a small dark stain on the concrete but she was super into it. In one motion, she went to roll in it but must’ve realized too late that it was just concrete and did a full somersault, ass over her head, the whole thing. She popped up with a very confused look on her face for a few seconds while I stood there cackling to myself.

I wouldn’t want to be the one to have to intubate those animals.

That’s a lot of nuts!