A friend and I (both 30yo males) are thinking of getting our pictures taken with the Easter bunny while wearing overalls and a propeller hat. my sister says it’ll be immature and that if I were to show a girl they would immediately be turned off.
We feel it’ll be funny and a good ice breaker with girls or anyone else for that matter. But now I’m kinda questioning it.
a few points: 1) don’t let your sister talk you out of fun. 2) your sister knows less about fashion than david alan grier. 3) the most immature thing you can do is worry about whether something is immature. 4) just do what you want. have fun.
If a hypothetical girl really would be “turned off” by you enjoying being yourself, then you probably wouldn’t be able to build a loving relationship with them anyways. Don’t forget to give the Easter Bunny a copy as well!
This is the kind of thing I call a “loser filter”. It stops the kind of people you don’t want to deal with from entering your life in the first place.
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Do it cause you enjoy having fun. Ladies will dig it for that reason. Some will think you’re a dork. You don’t want those ones anyway. Don’t do it cause you’re trying to set up a dating profile on some app. That’s weird.
Actually I’ve done very well with girls who think I’m a dork, in an endearing way
Yeah it depends on our views of dork status. Some of us look for that in a fella. And hope he doesn’t mind our dorkiness too.
Do it. Sounds hilarious.
Your sister sounds immature.
Do it.
It is immature and if you go around showing it to girls expecting a date you’ll be disappointed.
Do it because it’s funny, not because you could use it as an ice-breaker (you can’t). If you really want to impress girls, doing it and not giving a fuck what your sister thinks is more likely the impress someone, girl or not- but it’s not an ice-breaker.
Well he wants to put it on dating profiles.
I just want to do it as not an ice breaker but as something I can bring up on a date while talking about other stuff if it’s relevant.
We are mostly doing it for the lols but figured it being an icebreaker was an extra.
It’s a completely fine idea, people will probably also find it funny as well. Please don’t listen to these dinosaurs and enjoy life.
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe.
First date: too soon to share, painfully obvious ploy for attention/trying to stand out.
Second date: getting closer, almost there.
Third date: probably safe to share as something endearing and silly.
My suggestion is to do it for yourself because it is fun, because trying to use it as a token to stand out from other men will be seen as a desperate attempt to be funny/quirky, if you bring it out to early.
You don’t use it to initially capture their attention, you use it to seal the deal.
I think this is the reason he shouldn’t do it. If the whole reason to do it is to attract women, that is pretty unattractive. It would be funny if they just did it for the “fuck it, why not be silly?” aspect of it, but I feel like if the original reason is to attract women, then the jig is up and it is forced and weird.
“Let’s be silly” is cool and attractive. “Let’s be silly so we can attract women” is cringe and off-putting.
What you say is not universally true. There are women (I know, being one of them) who are attracted by silly. To me, seeing a man enjoying a silly situation he himself created means I could potentially enjoy something like that with him one day, which is super exciting to me. If OP wants to meet someone to share silly things with, he should include such photo - it’s going to filter out the women who are way too serious.
I think you might be misunderstanding me. I don’t mean to say women aren’t attracted by silliness. I mean to say that a person who tries to be a certain way (can be silly, serious, whatever) because they think it will attract a mate is less attractive, especially compared with than a person who is just a certain way because that’s how they are.
Being your true self is more attractive than trying to be act in a way that you think will attract someone, yknow?
But I agree with you (although I’m a man), silly is attractive. But being silly with the express intent of impressing potential romantic partners? Way less attractive
Ok, I get this and agree. I’d argue though OP probably is genuinely silly. The problem is when you use dating apps, you have to present yourself in some way. Taking pictures of yourself and choosing the good ones is really quite a killer of spontaneity and truthfullness. And everyone knows you want to show off your good sides in the profile. Taking silly pictures with his cousin that he may end up being a bit embarrased about later seems as genuine as it gets.
Ooo shit yeah I actually like this take, I didn’t think about the dating app implications. Like in the sense of highly ironic dating app pics, doing this and hamming it up to the max could actually be hilarious
Precisely why I said that he should do it for himself because it is fun. It’s also why I consider it third date material. Not something you bring up spontaneously, but more that they’ve come back to your apartment and see the photo hanging on your fridge. A casual introduction to it, not forced. It’s hanging on your fridge because it’s genuinely something you had fun doing, not because you wanted to use it to get women.
But, agreed, if the core of the reason for doing it is to attract women, it’s going to backfire spectacularly.
oop my bad, I wrote out my comment and then deleted my main point. I think you hit the nail on the head, my only differing opinion is that I think at this point, it’s really difficult to change the underlying reason that he’s doing it. At least for me, I wouldnt be able to just “turn off” the original intent of attracting women.
If I went ahead with the plan trying to tell myself, “Well originally it was about getting dates and impressing women, but now its just about having fun,” I feel like I’d still be subconsciously doing it for the female gaze. That’s why I say the jig is up – if I were him, I’d bag the idea and wait for next purely silly fun idea
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe
You might be right in this case, but I also want to point out that most dating profile fucking suck, and it’s not because they are too “cringe” or immature; it’s because they are all the same generic pictures. Wedding, gym, hiking, dead-fish, bar, dog.
I think it could work great on a dating profile. It’s unique, memorable, and a conversation starter for the apps that require comments when liking
Maybe not as the first image, but anywhere else. Pair it with a witty caption
if you go around showing it to girls expecting a date you’ll be disappointed.
i think filtering out the kinds of people who would be offended/icked by this (e.g. on a dating site profile) is probably a benefit. i can’t fuck someone i can’t laugh with.
Unless you’re causing harm, what others might think is rarely a good enough reason not to do something you genuinely want to do.
Immature or not, that’s your sense of humor. If a woman has an issue with the picture, there’s a decent chance you won’t get along anyway, so in that way it would actually be a good compatibility litmus test.
Will it be funny you think? Do it.
What kind of girl do you want to attract anyway? Do you want a full l girl that thinks that kind of stuff is funny or do you want a girl that finds it immature?
More immature than asking strangers for their opinion?
Do it. Who cares what girls think! But if you’re trying to attract one then maybe wait a bit before showing her the dumb shit you like doing with your mates.
You and your friend seem to not take yourselves too serious, which is a nice trait.
Your sister seems a bit too uptight.
If a woman i wanted to date didn’t find me funny when i do goofy shit, then she would quickly become a woman i dont want to date.
I can be immature without that being my whole personality. I am mature when it’s appropriate and immature when it’s appropriate.
Just be yourself. You dont want to lock it all away to be in a relationship with someone who can’t laugh at a well-timed fart.
Don’t forget to bring giant lollipops and paint freckles on your faces!
i got a slide whistle and kazoo if you need one
