Tristin Kate Smith, a 28-year-old Ohio nurse, wrote a scathing letter to her “abuser” five months ahead of her August 2023 suicide.

Tristin Kate Smith, a 28-year-old Ohio nurse, wrote a scathing letter to her “abuser” five months ahead of her August 2023 suicide.

  • SuiXi3D@kbin.social
    341·
    1 year ago

    She killed herself because, for her, there was no way out. There was no way out because of a system that abuses those that exist within it.

        • remus989@sh.itjust.works
          111·
          1 year ago

          This is the second time today I’ve run into this person spouting the same shit about suicide. They’re either a troll or someone who lacks all humanity or maybe both?

        • Touching_Grass@lemmy.world
          75·
          1 year ago

          Probably lost a loved one to suicide. I knew a guy who walked in on his dads brains blown all over the wall. I always see people act like suicide is heroic or brave. But the hurt they leave behind is hard to separate from. Suicide is a pretty selfish act because you hand off all the pain to everyone else. The friend of mine will suffer the rest of their life among the rest of the family who were left with cleaning up after that mess

          • Zoolander@lemmy.worldEnglish
            7·
            1 year ago

            I’m not disagreeing with the entirety of your sentiment but there’s a not-insignificant portion of people that commit suicide because they are in daily pain and anguish. Wouldn’t it be just as selfish to force this person to continue living simply so that those people don’t have to deal with the fact that they failed their loved one?

            Sure… get help and all but why didn’t they help, then?

            • Voran@lemmy.world
              4·
              1 year ago

              I agree so hard. I have had a friend commit suicide.

              I really miss her but at the same time I would never dream of pointing the finger and saying ‘How dare you! How selfish! What about me?’

              It’s narcissistic and evil to make someone else’s suffering about yourself. She had been through things I was very lucky to never experience. I can’t imagine being so me-me-me as to make her death about myself.

            • ghostdoggtv@lemmy.world
              3·
              1 year ago

              Honestly, not everyone has the means or is mentally healthy enough (because they’re being abused and psychological deformation is a symptom of abuse) to get help when their problems are so all-consuming. When health insurance is tied to employment above the $20/hour subsistence level that most people are stuck at in this economy, TONS of otherwise normal and healthy people are at risk of slipping through the cracks of despair.

          • Voran@lemmy.world
            31·
            1 year ago

            I think it’s more selfish to point the finger and make someone’s suicide about yourself. That’s heinously narcissistic.

          • iHUNTcriminals@lemm.ee
            42·
            1 year ago

            You’re not wrong, but the issue can be more broad.

            The ones they leave behind are usually arrogant towards the people with depression. Ime.

            If they legalized painless suicide no one would have to clean brains up and the passing could be a ceremonious celebration of free will.

      • prole@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        161·
        1 year ago

        You sound bitter. Could it be possible that you’re projecting your own past and your own issues with suicide onto other people whom you’ve never met in your life? Because, you know, you don’t know anything about them? Because before today you didn’t even know they existed?

        But yeah, im sure the article was enough to go on, in your mind, to call them “a pathetic waste of life.”

        It seems like you could benefit from seeing a therapist.

          • Voran@lemmy.world
            91·
            1 year ago

            I think it’s more selfish and cowardly to make someone else’s suicide about yourself. You’re making someone’s suffering about YOU. You you you you you. I have less than zero compassion for the ‘suicide is selfish’ brigade. Try a fucking ounce of consideration for others.

            A good friend of mine committed suicide a few years back. While I really miss her I would never dream of pointing the finger or calling her selfish. She had been through things I was very lucky to be protected from. Making her death about me would have been heinously narcissistic.

      • SeedyOne@lemm.ee
        13·
        1 year ago

        Some day you’ll realize the world isn’t so black and white and you don’t always know what people have or haven’t been through. You sound like the type that tells depressed people to just "“get therapy” or worse yet “just think happier”, not realizing the hurdles both can have. With any luck, when you grow up you’ll look back and realize what a heartless ass you were.

          • SeedyOne@lemm.ee
            21·
            1 year ago

            I think what you’re missing is that in general we agree, it’s that you don’t have experience (or tolerance) enough to realize that “never” really isn’t never. You and others act as if anyone that succeeded is a coward, that they didn’t try…but many have tried so hard, for many years and still get there. From system failures to abusive caretakers or just plain old ignorance.

            So when you and others label everyone who succeeds cowardly, you show us how little you know about the real world. In fact, I’m almost envious because you probably haven’t had to truly live yet, to make heartbreaking decisions with those “always options” disappearing one by one. Watching a loved one suffer, unable to help. Just remember this thread when (if) you get there, will ya?