• SassyRamen@lemmy.world
    16·
    2 months ago

    a thousand percent how it is. I was in the military for all of my 20’s… I got out at 32. It’s been years and I still don’t know who I am. TIme to go listen to Linkin Park while I play Skyrim 🤡

    • NecroParagon@lemm.ee
      4·
      2 months ago

      You’re someone who likes Linkin Park and playing Skyrim. Embrace that shit. Take everything as it comes.

      Scratch that, you’re a military trained badass who likes Linkin Park and playing Skyrim. You’ll see what you want and get that shit.

  • Mongostein@lemmy.ca
    11·
    2 months ago

    I didn’t need to get completely sober (I smoke pot still and have the occasional drink; I had issues with much harder drugs and as they say, “recovery looks different for everyone!”

    Anyway, this is so true. It’s like… what did I used to like doing before I started getting fucked up all the time?

    Well, I got back in to an online game I hadn’t played in 24 years (and didn’t know was still going!), I’m big in to riding my bicycle, reading comics, almost like being a kid again.

    The grownup hobby I’m still doing is maintaining and riding my motorcycle around. However, I do it by myself now because all my old riding buddies were definitely not clean. Also, riding motorcycles is an excellent exercise in mindfulness.

    I had to cut a lot of people out of my life. I’m still very lonely sometimes, but keeping busy with these things is so helpful. I’m also trying my hand at DMing a D&D campaign with a bunch of sober people, so that will help. We’re due to start next week. :)

    I went back to school and am 5 years since I last did my problem-drug and 3 years in to a new career that is…. going. 😆

    • TheRealLinga@sh.itjust.works
      3·
      2 months ago

      I feel you!

      I’m 6 years clean from the hard stuff and have had a similar experience. Like who am I? What do I like? I basically got to reinvent myself.

      I learned many hard lessons during my dark years, and I decided to use that to my advantage now. I’ve been through hell, so I don’t get fazed by anything at this point!

      I’m a 36 year old guitar-playing video-gaming family man! Live life and just enjoy being you whoever you are!

  • Entropywins@lemmy.world
    8·
    2 months ago

    I got sober at 33 and thought too much of my life had passed by but after a couple weeks and meeting others aged 50-70 getting sober I quickly realized how lucky I was to get sober at my age and how much potential life I still might have…made it 5 years this July and looking forward to 10+

    • Crikeste@lemm.ee
      4·
      2 months ago

      I’m the same age, with more relapses and detoxes than I can count on my hands. I had never thought about it that way, but it’s a great perspective. I’m at day 93 today, feeling sturdy as fuck.

      Congrats on your sobriety! 5 years is a huge feat and I’m sure it feels amazing! ☺️✊🏼

      • el_abuelo@programming.dev
        6·
        2 months ago

        Congrats on 93 days, stay strong and when you’re feeling weak remember how strong you were to get this far and reach out for help!

  • fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.comEnglish
    6·
    2 months ago

    While genetics certainly plays a role, never, ever, let age be an excuse. Plenty of people either start, or continue to be active, well into their later years. Heck there’s a pro mountain biker who consistently places top 5 nearing 40.

    And if you can’t be active, there a tons of sedentary hobbies, too. Life is a series of experiences, enjoy them while, and whenever, you can.

    • Dave@lemmy.nz
      2·
      2 months ago

      While genetics certainly plays a role, never, ever, let age be an excuse. Plenty of people either start, or continue to be active, well into their later years.

      nearing 40

      👴

    • teft@lemmy.world
      1·
      2 months ago

      I started downhill and enduro mountain biking when I was 40. 2 years later I’m pretty decent at it. I take some pretty large jumps and drops and go down crazy steep technical shit. You’re never to old to learn. Just make sure you wear the protective gear for the sport and you’ll do fine. Also you’ll feel amazing when you conquer an obstacle that used to give you trouble.

      • thanks_shakey_snake@lemmy.ca
        2·
        2 months ago

        When you turn 40 and people tell you “it’s all downhill from here,” I’m pretty sure this is what they’re talking about.

  • FoxyGrandpa@lemmy.world
    3·
    2 months ago

    You need a hobby when getting sober more than anything. When you get sober you are bored shitless. Seriously I didn’t know what bored meant until getting clean

  • bizarroland@fedia.io
    0·
    2 months ago

    I’ve heard that gen z are aging faster than millennials than if this is what a 30 year old looks like then sucks for you guys.