For example, I don’t use TikTok. I never have, and I never will, and I’d advise everyone else to get off the platform too. I genuinely believe it’s objectively harmful to people’s mental health and possibly even a threat to democracy. That said, I also believe people should be free to decide for themselves whether they want to use it or not, which is why I’m against the U.S. government banning it.

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        Step 1: look at the question that this thread is asking

        Step 2: look at my post and pretend that I am providing my answer to it

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        For me as well at least a little bit. I feel like there should be another option. Doesn’t really sit well with me that a handful of random people can let someone walk free even if they clearly broke the law. It’s unlikely to happen successfully but what if they are all threatened or bribed?

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    I’m pro choice even though I’m philosophically and morally against abortion.

    To clarify I believe the woman’s right and ability to choose is more important than any opinion or argument I can muster against abortion.

    As in it is far worse to have a governing body adjudicate or decide what an individual can do to their own body vs. the potential for life and or what the father might want for their unborn child.

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      I wish more people could differentiate between having an opinion and trying to force everyone else to live according to that opinion.

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    Helping humans. I genuinely think it’s a terrible idea the long run and there are way way better versions of life on earth.
    Do it anyway because of brainwashing.

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    I don’t like abortion, I have grave qualms about it. I’m also vehemently pro-choice.

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      I just think people should go to doctors, discuss what they think is best for their life, and do what they think is best for themselves. Doctors have licenses and review boards, those boards will see what practices are occuring and make research driven decisions on whether someone is practicing medicine in a way that is improper and revoke their license. Politicians aren’t licensed medical doctors, and shouldn’t have any say in what you and your doctor decides is the best course for you.

      If someone wants to have an arm sewn onto their forehead, and a doctor discussed it with them and found somehow that was possibly the healthiest option for them, then who the fuck am I to say anything about it.

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      The problem here is “abortion” gets conflated with “reproductive health care”. There are all sorts of reasons a woman might require aborting a pregnancy that have nothing to do with birth control.

      My daughter had an ectopic pregnancy about 10 years ago. The procedure she underwent would be considered an abortion, even though there was no chance of survival. She was concerned the procedure would affect her ability to become pregnant later. But now I have 2 year old granddaughter that loves popcorn and 3d printed flexi animals and getting bopped in the head with marshmallow toys.

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      until we live in a society where being pregnant and giving birth does not endanger your health, security, and social status, prohibiting abortion simply can’t be an option.

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    I have no problem with TikTok, their owners, or the company beyond my usual concerns with corporate platforms. They’re as bad (maybe even a little less) as American corporate media.

    I just stay away from it because I don’t think short form doom scrolling videos would be good for my productivity or attention span

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      Be advised TikTok is literally Chinese spyware on your phone. It’s collecting all sorts of data on all it’s users all the time. This is a known thing, and the initial impetus of many organizations to ban it internally

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        Stop this other nonsense. You look like a moron to anybody remotely educated.

        I’m tired of this made up spyware propaganda. Absolute luddites shit.

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          I’ll find the tech that broke it down. He monitored the android system and say it hooks into a lot more than any other social media app. If that’s not enough, the owner and creator of tiktok has already been involved in some snooping and questionable data handling. Anyone telling you otherwise just isn’t educated enough. It needs to go 100%.

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            👌👍 I’ll just take his word on that. And yet the hundreds of thousands apparently worthless OCIO from every government on the planet seems to lack the ability to provide a single shed of evidence. 👍

            Please post that white paper I await it eagerly.

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        And Facebook, X, Google apps, etc are what exactly?

        They’re just as bad or worse on privacy. People throw around that “Chinese” label like it’s supposed to make it worse, somehow. Seems a bit racist to me. At least “the Chinese” aren’t feeding that data to government entities that have actual power over me.

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          I’ll find the tech that broke it down. He monitored the android system and say it hooks into a lot more than any other social media app. If that’s not enough, the owner and creator of tiktok has already been involved in some snooping and questionable data handling. Anyone telling you otherwise just isn’t educated enough. It needs to go 100%.

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            The problem with Facebook etc is that they monitor you even outside the app. TikTok is a little kid surrounded by hungry sharks of social media.

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    I always had a moral rule about drinking and smoking weed. Fine, do whatever you like. Just don’t fucking get me involved. I’ve only ever had 3 alcoholic beverages in my entire life and I’ve firmly decided that it’s not for me. Smoking, never done that, I’ve been around smokers both weed and cigarette to say I want none of it.

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      Just don’t fucking get me involved.

      What does this even mean? Are they pinning you down and force feeding you booze through a funnel?

      Don’t drink or smoke if you don’t want to. I guarantee that nobody cares what you do.

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        Just going out on a limb here… but I presume they’re talking about more dogged kinds of social customs? e.g. friends, family, and depending where you live, your bosses and coworkers (Japan in the 00s I think?), can carry it as a heavy social expectation while being fine people to know otherwise.

        I’m not sure it’s so black and white.

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        They just needed to tell everyone that they’ve only had 3 alcoholic beverages in their entire life, because we’ll all be super impressed rather than just sad for them.

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    I would prefer to spend holidays with family but I don’t because they prefer to eat flesh and I am against animal abuse. I think it’s the right thing to do to protest this by not going but it sucks.

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      You could choose to subtly influence your relatives, but instead you “protest”. Pfft. Given the vegan I knew well, what you’re actually doing here is not going because you’re too grossed out by it. You know not going won’t inspire anyone to change, but you tell yourself that lie to justify it because being grossed out is not a high minded reason.

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        I have been requested to not talk about it.

        You know not going won’t inspire anyone to change

        Partner stopped going and the next year all family events were fully vegan because family prefers being together over eating flesh.

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      My stance on eating meat is kind of the exact opposite of what I was asking here. It’s one of the two things I continue doing despite not being able to morally justify it. Piracy is the other one.

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        both are easy to justify. humans share (food, culture, stories, songs, tools, etc). piracy is natural. laws that prohibit it are immoral.

        as for eating meat, there is cost, convenience, and culture: for many people eschewing meat simply isn’t reasonable given their circumstances.

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    I think many people on here, me included, would rather be using Reddit simply because of all the content.

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      And some variety in the userbase as well. This is quite the echo chamber. Not that reddit wasn’t but Lemmy is even worse in that sense.

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      I prefer the content, but reddit as a service is absolute garbage. I still check in on it every once in a while because there’s a question or something I see the answer to after googling it and I can’t stand browsing there for more than a minute or two.

      The sponsored content and ads are just everywhere and disguised like user accounts making a post or comment and it’s infuriating. You can’t even use reddit on your phone unless you download their app, browsing the web version is practically impossible because “they can’t confirm you are over 18 for some of the content” as if they can confirm your age through the app and they don’t care if you are on desktop.

      Reddit is a garbage company when it comes to their users, they quickly became one of my top most despised companies up there with nestle

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      Nah. Smaller community is better. This site reminds me of old (old old old) reddit.

      I do still use reddit for porn though. Until they do away with old.reddit

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      Reddit as a site is superior to Lemmy, but ever since all the trash have flooded that place, I decided to leave. What I’m saying is that I would pbviously choose Reddit if we’d ignore the kind of people that are frequenting it, but since you can’t really ignore them when it comes to a social media, I use this site instead.

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      I use Lemmy on mobile and (old.)reddit on desktop. They both serve their purpose and I have no complex about it.

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      I’m here for the distinct lack of content. I can browse for a bit, hit the bedrock loop of top 6hr, and come back hours later. It’s not endless here… And it shouldn’t be.

      If I need info for a niche, I’ll find a forum. Lemmy, reddit, etc are poor places for such things anyway.

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      I’ll be 100% transparent, should third party apps be allowed back I’d go immediately back. There just isn’t much hobby related stuff here yet. I don’t have the time or care to “be the change I wanna see”

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      Honestly tho it’s been downhill over there. I’m getting old reddit vibes here and I’m cool with never posting on reddit ever again.

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        Garbage is more entertaining than the same 5 political posts reposted between 40 instances and the only OC being posts that bitch about Reddit. This place is NOTHING like old reddit.

        Sorry but not sorry, this place is borderline worthless. Until sometime figures it how to keep every sub becoming a commission echo chamber this is an interesting experiment that is dead in the water.

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          Maybe you just need to take a break from your phone for a few hours?

          Also, check out different sorting methods (like most comments 6/12 hours)

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          You do realize the entire format of reddit is designed to make “echo chambers”. Every single reddit sub is an echo chamber and users have no options. At least here people can do what they want with no one to tell them how to run their community.

          The only way to stop it from being a commission echo chamber is to push back or post the opposite stuff. They don’t run many of the communities here like they do on reddit. The good thing about lemmy is getting downvoted doesn’t restrict your usage of the site so you can make unpopular opinions without getting timed out like on reddit.

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          I at least don’t feel a need to return to Reddit, but I agree that this is still “pale imitation” territory.

          In Twitter terms, it’s like we’ve all left for Mastodon but are really just waiting for a Bluesky to come around.

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            Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize stating the reality precluded me from having an interest in an open protocol or interest in seeing these communications evolve.

            I guess my responding to the delusional post above was out of line and totally off topic 🙄

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              I interpreted “old reddit vibes” to be more about there being an actual discourse on posts more than being about the subject matter of the posts. If you look at the comments on reddit, they all just agree with each other because they’re the most popular opinions so they get the most upvotes. The thing I like about here is that I can still read that popular comment, but there are few enough total comments that scrolling down a bit leads to discussions that would have been buried in downvotes there. But since they didn’t define “old reddit vibes” I could be misinterpreting as easily as you!

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            Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize stating the reality precluded me from having an interest in an open protocol or interest in seeing these communications evolve.

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                This is what I’m seeing here.

                “Lemmy would be better if it wasn’t an echo chamber. There’s no variety in opinion.”

                “Well, if you don’t agree with us you can leave!”

                🤦🏻‍♂️

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          Look at the actual engagement on those hobby subreddits. Dont let the thousands of followers fool you. The big subreddits got bigger, but the smaller ones got smaller. I see niche groups with thousands of followers, but posts rarely break 100 upvotes/10 comments. Reddit is a hollowing shell right now.

          I saw a post about Kids In The Hall on this site the other day. Go see how popular that is on reddit. You just gotta believe.

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          Agree, hate to admit I sometimes still go there (no login) to check certain communities because they are completely dead on Lemmy.

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    I’m not gay and I think everyone should be able to be so gay that it is in your face just to root out what is wrong with the people that don’t accept it

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      This. It’s the easiest way to find intolerant individuals. Those individuals are very rarely just anti-LGBTQ from my experience. They’re most often intolerant of everyone not like them.

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        A lot of them are in fact queer but they’re so repressed that the only way they perceive they have to keep being a part of their community is to be as homophobic as possible

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          I mean, remember when the Grindr servers crashed at the republican national convention or some shit because of the overflow of traffic?

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          My theory is THAT’S why they say being gay is a choice.

          They themselves are CHOOSING to be straight, and they assume that EVERYONE is feeling the same way and successfully fighting the gay urges. It’s no fair that the “Pride” crew gets to flaunt all that delicious man meat instead of hiding and suffering like “the rest of us”.

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      Something just clicked for me after reading this. The reason people always say things like “don’t shove your gayness in my face” is that seeing gayness forces them to think about their intolerance (and of course stirs up fears about they themselves being gay).

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    That people should try things before they fully pass judgement. I’m not particularly pro TikTok but a lot of Lemmy’s anti TilTok views are ones they’ve picked up from media parroting.

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      Yeah same with heroin just try it once it’s fun

      Now obviously TikTok isn’t heroin, but it’s deliberately made to be addictive and I’d find it hard to believe that a given person has never seen TikTok content outside of TikTok. So it’s known garbage with known addictive properties and your question is why don’t we just give it a try before we pass judgement on how fun it is to scroll through a large quantity of that same garbage.

      Also don’t forget TikTok content existed before the TikTok addiction algorithm. Early YouTube was like that before the algorithm change to promote ten minute vids. Vine existed and was rejected (thank god) by my generation. Etc. it’s not new content it’s just a new tool

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        Everything that is built for profit is designed for maximum retention of users i.e. addiction.

        I’m not sure I follow what you mean by “I’d find it hard to believe that a given person has never seen tiktok content outside tiktok”

        I’m not defending TikTok blindly here, it just annoys me when people pass judgement with pretty much zero knowledge on something except from what they’ve heard/read.

        I know TikTok is flawed yes but no more or less than any other profit driven app/site. If you don’t like short form content then that’s fine, personally I think there’s a time and place for it.

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          Perhaps you shouldnt have said ‘without trying it’, you dont need to try TikTok to know the downsides. But theres a difference between ‘I hate TikTok because others hate it’ and ‘Ive read some studies about social media addiction and reject TikTok’

          That said, Im not particularly against TikTok, but it definitely needs more regulation like any other legal drug.

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    I think honesty is the best policy even when it sucks for me, because that’s the only way to actually grow and improve myself. The real world is infinite, but lies don’t lead to anything.

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      I’m with you on this one. I tell the truth even when it’s potentially harmful to me. However, it also holds you accountable because it prevents one from doing things they would have the urge to lie about in the future.

      Also, not lying doesn’t mean radical honesty. Just that you don’t say things that are untrue. I think lying is only acceptable when used to prevent violence - kind of like violence is also acceptable when defending yourself. So if there are nazies on the door asking wether you have Anne Frank on the attic, it’s okay to lie.

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    Best to do what you think is right … as for Democracy, it’s a good idea, I hope we’ll see it show up one of these days. ‘All men are created equal’ … but then someone’s gotta pick the crops.

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    I truly believe in Scrum, as it can make a team’s work very efficient when it’s done right. Been there, done that.

    Now the thing is, it forces people to actively collaborate, and I’m quite an introverted person. Also, a good Scrum workflow includes regular demo sessions (perhaps even with customers), and I absolutely hate that. But I accept it, it’s part of the game and I think it did contribute to my own self improvement as well.

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    I think that my core stance of "as long as you’re not harming anyone else doing it whatever someone does in their free time is fine with me. There’s times when I do question why someone would want to do something, but as is my core principle, In fine with it.