Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?
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Been there done that.
A few years back I went back to an old Internet haunt that I hadn’t been to in more years still.
People were there, chatting, including at least one person I knew who’d been there previously. I should have taken the hint when he joked that he “didn’t spend a lot of time there, honest” (paraphrase), but I basically picked up where I’d left off years before rather than feel out the new vibe. There were about twenty or so people there at first, and I only really noticed when there were ten or so left and they weren’t saying much.
I left. Haven’t had the nerve to go back. If I do, I’ll try to feel out the vibe first.
In the meantime, I’ve found other places to hang out and different people. But I still try to reel myself in occasionally, just in case.
I don’t do group chats anymore because whatever I say gets unanswered, or replied to and buried in the conversation.
With friends we do video chat. Also seems in large group chats, there are often like 10 different parallel conversations going on and it is hard to keep track of. No one waits or treats it like an actual group discussion.
Should we tell him, guys?..
Oh no…
Yes this right here officer.
Should we tell him, guys?..
this is not an appropriate time to make a cruel joke.
this person came here harmlessly asking for help.
punching down at someone’s insecurities right when they’re trying to address them is not ok.
Nah man it’s fine. The joke’s popular and I am sure they didn’t mean it. Thanks though.
I’m glad to hear you’re alright, then.
If you’re seeking mental help on the internet from random strangers, that might be a problem.
I disagree. It’s not the ideal place, but it’s fine
Yeah he’s just asking for advice.
You must be really fun at parties!
They can smell it on you like a dog.
If this was reddit this thread would have no replies.
Do you experience people becoming silent and staring at you with disgust when you make a joke in real life?
Nope I am not that open irl
You might be over thinking your jokes. Try not editing your reaction thoughts. The first thing you think is often wrong or absurd but it can also be very funny because its wrong or absurd.
For example, Louis CK has a joke about seeing a person walking with their dog, and also talking on the phone. The person is holding the leash and the phone in the same hand, so the thought that popped into Louie’s head was, “I wonder what the benefits are of hooking your phone up to your dogs leash?”.
Jokes need to be some version of something you really shouldnt say, for them to be funny. Reasons you shouldnt say something could be: its shocking, its silly or wrong on purpose, its taboo societally, its offensive, it punches down, its too personal, etc etc.
I know my jokes are fire because I get validation here.
It’s the chat rooms that suck. 😬
Look at it like this: You know how actors are told to break a leg and comedians are told to knock 'em dead? You just floored them with your text and they’re dead from laughing.
I’ve noticed something similar to this, where I walk into a room and it goes silent enough that it’s like the stereotype of a cowboy walking into a saloon. There’s only one place where I can trust this to never happen.
Do you fart in lifts with the same effect ? If not, it’s probably in your head :)
I lurk mostly, like 100-200 to 1 there aren’t enough people to get long engaging threads if thays what yoite after, , thank <insert deity of choice> for that
I’m not a joking person and I feel similar situations. Maybe I’m the extreme opposite, my (almost) complete lack of lightheartedness leads me to face echo chambers, both IRL and in the cyberspace. I do some memes and I say/post some funny things but my essence is imbued with non-conformist thoughts.
This would have been hilarious if nobody had replied…
I actually wanted make a joke on that in the post itself lol.
I was half expecting a ton of upvotes and no comments.
Everyone is a bot except you.
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Personally, I gave up a long time ago
I just post, comment, contribute and don’t even care any more. If people respond, great, lets chat a bit … if they don’t, I really don’t care.
When I first started any kind of online chat years and years ago in the early internet … I wanted to talk to people and I wanted them to talk to me, I constantly wanted to interact and felt terrible if I got no reaction. Over the years I realized, if you really, really want interaction, then you have to build relationships with people and more often than not, eventually you’ll get regular conversations with those people … even if they are just anonymous characters in a chat forum, platform or social media. People are people and they habituate to certain places or routines and given time, you become familiar with one another … even if you never really meet in real or life or know one another.
So this is all I do now … I post, comment and contribute and never think twice of anything.
Maybe your interjecting into a convo and not saying something worth responding to? I would imagine that making a joke in text isn’t that funny because its not spoken its read.
I think this - and the dozens of other reasons - is it.
I’m in a handful of reasonably active group chats, and if one of my absolute banger messages doesn’t get a response, welll… maybe it just wasn’t that good. Not awful in as much that people leave the group en maase, but just not nearly as funny or interesting to other folk as it was to me.
It may be that it was the group chat equivalent of clicking a Lemmy post, thinking “huh, cool”, and moving on.
It may be that the post was so balanced and well presented from most angles, that there isn’t really anything to add.
It could be that my post went against the grain of the flow of conversation or the tastes of the majority of the group, and people chose to ignore it rather than tell me to fuck off.
It could be that people’s lives have run away with them, nobody gave any serious mind to the post when they read it, and it would just be a bit weird replying twelve or 24 hours after the post.
Any which way - if the group is still active, and you’ve not been called out publically or privately, then people likely don’t give a toss and have moved on - no harm no foul.
Gotta get there earlier … before all those other thoughts get a chance to drown out your perfectly sensible thoughts.
