Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?

I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess

  • Platypus@lemmings.worldOP
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    1 month ago

    Your friend has no shame or restrictions, there. That doesn’t apply to me, for better and for worse

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      Gotta change your goal from something that is making you feel shameful or restricted.

      Approach people with the idea that maybe they’re attractive to you, but you’re just looking to shoot the shit and pass the time. Nothing shameful about that.

      If you happen to hit it off? Amazing, maybe you can think about next steps then.

      Don’t get me wrong: it’s always hard to put yourself out there, but if you are really struggling with feelings of shame during it, you might not be thinking about it in the healthiest terns.