Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
Disqualifying yourself (and others) before you even try to meet someone isn’t going to help. Just try to talk to people and show genuine interest in what they have to say, you’d be surprised.
What if I can’t show genuine interest then. Because that’s my regular state
Maybe the issue is wanting high yield for low investment. Maybe invest in yourself more. When you become enough for you, everything else is a compliment, not a completion.
I’m not going to invest more in me that I’m already doing. Sometimes I feel like giving up even more on me that I’m already doing right now, I’m tired.
I mean no offense, but it sounds like you have poorly developed social skills. I used to as well.
You could try reframing it in your mind:
It’s not faking, it’s practice.
If you pick up an instrument for the first time to practice, you will sound terrible, and possibly be discouraged, but if you practice for hundreds of hours you’ll be able to play it for real.
Babies and children aren’t born knowing how to express interest or sympathize. You certainly weren’t. Children have to learn how to do this. It is possible that you need to practice if you want to build intimate relationships. There is no shortcut to this.
I have 2 guitars and gave up on those long ago, still can’t play shit. So you tell me. I don’t have social skills, I’m aware. But that’s me. That’s who I am, does that mean I’m cursed to be alone and miserable just for that? Meanwhile there’s horrible, disgusting criminals out there getting laid and even married? Am I worse than that just because I don’t socialise?
You should really consider professional help (if you want to change). Reading your comments, venting to random people on Lemmy isn’t going to change anything for you.
I’m aware this won’t change anything but it’s either this or drowning in silence.
Do what you always did, get what you always got.
Without social skills, you are cursed to be alone, yes. Humans don’t hang out with people that makes them feel bad.
Fix your social skills or be alone. Your choice.