Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?

I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess

  • Maeve@kbin.earth
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    1 month ago

    On an uglier note, this is how repeating abuse cycles can happen. You felt like you knew him already because you did. You met him the first time in the form of your alcoholic father, or fill in the blank.

    This is an example of "if it feels like home, run. So many would be spared repetitive abuse cycles if this concept could be grasped.

    • zephorah@lemm.ee
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      1 month ago

      Depends on your history.

      If you have a great history and it feels like home, high odds you’ll not run into abuse.

      Granted, given the level of therapy avoidant people out there, they may not recognize their own emotional/mental abuse in their own history.

      All of that said, some people sort it out, recognize the abuse for what it is and live happy lives utterly avoidant of prior abuses.

      Resilience is one of those things no one has cracked in its entirety. It may very well be an inherent quality, like height or the capacity to never get type 2 diabetes no matter your weight.

      (People are messy.)