Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?

I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess

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    All those things you mentioned aren’t for me unfortunately, plus I’m not American and I don’t drive so my “circle” will be limited. Also I don’t have friends.

    Almost sounds like we’re 2 different species.

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      Relationships take work, so if you’re not willing to put in any work, you’re not going to have a successful relationship.

      It sounds to me like you may be suffering with motivation issues, though. That can be diagnosed and treated by qualified medical professionals. It might benefit you to talk about your feelings and your sense of motivation with a psychiatrist.

      Speaking from my own experience with psychiatric drugs, they improved my life immensely. A lot of people have told me that I don’t need them and that I should just “buck up and put in the work,” but those people are speaking from their own experiences. Things that work for person A might not work for person B. If you can find something that works for you, your life may improve substantially.

      Psychiatric issues often stem from chemical imbalances in the brain, and those can be invisible to outsiders, unlike a broken leg. But just like a broken leg, seeking medical help can drastically improve your outcome.

      I hope you can find something that helps you. Everyone deserves a shot at happiness.

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        Here you don’t have access to mental stuff, especially as an immigrant. Nobody in my family has gone through that shit, even if they’re cracked

        I don’t want a successful relationship, just a relationship would be enough.

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          There are mental health resources online you can use. You’ve created a lot of barriers for yourself though. I don’t really know what you want here. It seems like you’re just here for a pity party, not to seek actual advice and actually better yourself. Maybe you should do some introspection and try to figure out why you’ve created so many barriers, and what it is that you actually want out of life.