It is, but you’re being obtuse. You don’t want to make the effort for whatever reason. Maybe it’s fear. Regardless, when it comes to struggles, choosing to do nothing and suffer is an active choice. You’re not a passenger in your own life, and not waiting for someone else to come along and provide direction is the only way you’re going to get anywhere new.

It’s okay to feel the feelings, but ruminating isn’t going to solve this problem.