So make a decision, which do you value more: remaining exactly the same as you are, or romance?

This is it. You don’t have to be a “friend of everyone”, you just have to not be miserable to be around, and pleasant enough to at least one person for them to want to spend time with you.

But these are your choices. You can put in the effort to be more attractive, or you can accept that you won’t attract a partner. But refusing to change, and then complaining that your romantic life isn’t changing either, is just stupid and it makes you even less attractive. No one wants to date a miserable sad sack who thinks the world is out to get them.

Commit to change, or accept your fate. Either way, quit whining about it.