Everyone’s life is messy. That’s the human condition.

And you say that nothing changes, but at the same time refuse to change. How can anything change if you don’t?

The things you are doing now are making you miserable, so why keep doing them? The choices you’re making now are making you miserable, so why not try and make different choices.

This isn’t a “change the entirety of who you are right now” thing. It’s a slow change of small decisions.

What if, tomorrow, instead of going to McDonald’s (or whatever fast food you have), you went and sat at a local bar and chatted with people. Even for just an hour.

“I’d hate that,” I hear you say. So? People do things they don’t want to all the time. That’s life. You can’t do something hard for one hour a week? You can’t stretch yourself, even the tiniest bit?

And maybe if you do that for a few months, you get to know someone at that bar. Maybe they invite you to another thing going on in town. Maybe as you develop friends, you start to realize that having relationships with people isn’t as impossible as you’ve built it up in your head to be.

But if you keep choosing McDonalds, nothing will change. If you choose just one hour a week at the local pub, something might. That’s not “changing who you are.” It’s not ego death for God’s sake. It’s one hour a week at a local bar.

So why not take the chance? What do you have to lose?