• moonmint@lemmy.worldOP
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    4 months ago

    They have 2 young children together and want to give them a stable, nuclear family upbringing.

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      4 months ago

      Where does ‘separated’ come into it? This sounds like an open relationship. Assuming the other party actually knows, which is doubtful.

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        4 months ago

        They’re separated cause they’re just housemates, don’t have a romantic / sexual relationship anymore. And the wife knows, we talked.

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          4 months ago

          As someone who’s been in a similar situation (they split, but couldn’t afford to move out), I don’t recommend it. Shortly after we split, they got back together.

          The entire situation was a heavy drag on our (short) time together, and is certainly a factor in why we didn’t work out.

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        4 months ago

        Agreed, I would personally have more issues with the situation if there are kids involved. An amicable divorce and full engagement from both parents in a shared parenting plan would be way better for the kids than staying together nominally and having outside relationships, IMO.

        To the “is it moral” question, I would start edging to “no” if I thought the kids were being harmed in any way.