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Most of all, lonely. My situation is rough. I’m a trans woman (some passing privilege), almost 40, and staying with center-right family in East Texas because I haven’t been able to work in two years due to mental illness. I have a very difficult time making and keep friends and the family I’m staying with doesn’t understand why I’m upset, doesn’t care, and think I’m overreacting (They are superficially supportive about me being trans, but also voted for this). I was going to therapy for a while, but I had to discontinue it because I couldn’t afford it any more. The only thing keeping me going is that for the last few years I’ve been able to feel more comfortable in my own skin, thanks to HRT.
I really don’t want to go through whatever the Republicans have in store for trans people in red states alone. The thing I am most afraid of is them banning HRT for adults (it’s already banned for kids). I’ve been on e since 2018. If everything were going great for me losing access to my medication would be a horrifying and soul crushing ordeal, I doubt I’ll survive it with how my life is now.
This last week I’ve been almost completely non-functional. I’ve been alternating between uncontrollable sobbing, hours long panic attacks, furious rage, and making half-crazed, poorly thought out Lemmy and Reddit comments.
tl;dr: not great.
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DFW area here. Shit sucks. At least it’s pretty blue here.
It’s aight.
I knew which color my state went. It aint gonna change soon.
It’s ok here because I’m in a left leaning city, trans kid (my youngest) will be adult soon so can begin medical care whenever they can afford it; any daughters who are at all into men have IUDs, and in general everything has been ok, except for school but I do a little bit insulated because it’s an art school and they DGAF about the state saying they can’t use nicknames or preferred gender. So that is ok but the actual teaching in the academic classes has faltered, getting bad like when I went to school here, and it’s so disappointing after it had gotten so good for awhile.
Thanksgiving may be fractious because we have trans, communists, right wing, right-leaning, about half progressive leftist, one sort of prickly vegan (not prickly a, it’s always very mixed and rowdy like that, tensions seem higher but OTOH my ex has become more reasonable.
Bracing for economic downturn, hopefully it lets some people get into houses, who cannot now. And hopefully can stay employed, pretty old so have made it through several recessions already.
I live in California, but I’m worried about just how much resistance a state can do against the Feds.
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Feeling depressed, trapped, and abandoned. Going through the motions, trying to come to terms that I won’t be a dad because the wife doesn’t want to risk a pregnancy under the conditions, and I won’t be a homeowner because no ones coming to help build houses or stop corporate real estate. I won’t start a business because I can’t risk losing healthcare, and will need every dollar I can hang on to. Settling for serfdom. You know, usual shit.
How are you.
I feel you…I still can’t believe this country is so … ignorant of the consequences of this. It’s over
Had to soak last week’s shirts due to anxiety sweats but this week will probably be lighter on the poor things. So, slightly worse than usual.
Meh. I want to try to move to Minnesota some day. Seems like a nice place. They have laws preventing employers from firing people over non psychoactive thc drug tests, that’s worth doing even if the higher paying jobs are otherwise abusive and shitty. I have 2 degrees in tech.
The twin cities are great but 45 miles out in any direction and you’re in the land of pickup trucks and Trump flags. Or Wisconsin.
Aside from the Wisconsin part, that describes most cities.
duluth is ok, too, but the range has lost its political magic over the years.
the other college towns like mankato, moorhead, st cloud, bemidji are a lot redder than one would think they’d be, unlike some nearby college towns in wisconsin (eau claire, la crosse, superior. menomonie being an exception to those–it’s dunn gone red lately)
Honestly I am so scared for my children. If Trump goes through with dismantling the Education department I do not trust my state at all not to destroy our public school system.
Married het cis male. Wife is absolutely bent out of shape due to our states bull shit abortion ban and with Trump being in office again. We had been talking about a second kiddo… But she told me that she wanted me to get a vasectomy Monday morning at 8am. She’s not leaving her life in the hands of old dudes.
So… I’m going to schedule it for inauguration day .
Other than that… okay. Tho… I did buy another carry gun. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
voted Dem all the way down ballot.
As if you even need to say this when you began with proper use of cis and het
Haha that’s fair
Contrarian take: being so ostentatious in the “proper” use of such terms is one reason that Democrats just lost and that the rest of us outside America will now have to suck up yet more of Trump.
As if people stopped saying cis het would somehow reduce bigotry.
It is impenetrable jargon. Inadvertently or otherwise, it is being used by the enlightened few as a stick with which to beat the (supposed) ignorant bigoted masses. A lot of people find this deeply annoying and objectionable.
So long as it isn’t attempting to refurbish words that are still in common use and already have common meanings, I usually have no issue with new-speak. Unnecessary abbreviations are taxing, though cis and het have become ubiquitous enough that I can almost forgive it.
Agreed. Much better to introduce new jargon than to insidiously repurpose existing language. This is the point Orwell made.
But it’s jargon nonetheless. It’s exclusionary by definition.
I dunno. Online, it feels less like jargon and more like an attempt at avoiding any snark. Irl, I occasionally hear “cis” but most people say “straight” or rather than “het.” Just another synonym to memorize for me
It is impenetrable jargon
Lol, what are you, illiterate?
Cisgender and heterosexual are really simple to understand, basically every American learns the second term in science class for fucks sake
And with TRANSgender rights in the media for 10 years now only an idiot wouldn’t be able to at least make a good guess on what CISgender might mean
Maybe what they are trying to say is that most everyday folks don’t use those terms in any normal conversation. I’ve never used those terms myself and haven’t heard them in any conversation I can recall outside of the Internet.
If you tell Americans outside cosmopolitan cities they must declare themselves publicly as “cis het” or else they’re a bigot (I caricature but only slightly), then you should expect to lose elections.
And American elections tend to affect other people in the world. That’s why lots of us wish you would let up a bit on this nonsense.
If you tell Americans outside cosmopolitan cities they must declare themselves publicly as “cis het” or else they’re a bigot
Nothing even close to that is happening and you’d have to be willfully ignorant to pretend otherwise
“Ostentatious”? Must be a Democrat.
Is that you, Sam Harris?
So… I’m going to schedule it for inauguration day .
Go get it Monday if you aren’t opposed to it. No reason to wait and risk pregnancy being a couple weeks along on inauguration day.
Ah man, I should buy a gun.
Literally just bought a gun safe. Plan on getting a shotgun in the next month for black Friday. Gotta protect yourself.
Go far enough left… You get your guns back.
Liberal gun owners sub on reddit used to be decent.
I’ve never been against self defense personally, but never felt I needed one previously.
Crossbows come equipped with Hollywood style “silencers.”
I’ve been eyeing a DP12. Probably complete overkill but at the same time, if someone comes knocking down my door then I want to be able to erase them with extreme prejudice if I have to.
Do not buy that thing. It’s utter junk. If you are wanting a home defense rifle build an AR pistol.
Aside from being a bullpup and the clumsiness of trying to load two independent tube mags, what’s wrong with it? I’m not expecting to storm a fortified position; I’m only expecting to use it for self-defense and I highly doubt I’d need to go through both mags in such a situation (if so then I’d probably be fucked either way) so reloading shouldn’t be a problem. Bullpup is bullpup *shrug*. The other option is some form of semi-auto shotgun like a Saiga-12 that I can buy a drum mag for.
I’m not really interested in a rifle or pistol. Not really interested in something that can penetrate multiple walls and potentially end up in my neighbor’s neighbor’s wall. If I end up actually getting organized with a group then that’d change, but my modus operandi right now is to put my head down until I’m in a more secure environment; which means basically a shotgun because that seems like the ideal self-defense weapon for a home environment.
These types of shotguns are jamfests, which is the last thing you want in a life or death situation.
Over penetration is going to happen no matter what you’re shooting, drywall won’t stop shit.
https://youtu.be/W7x-gteGnZE?feature=shared
The reason I suggested an AR is you’re going to have better target acquisition and the odds of actually hitting someone are greater than if you have a handgun or a huge shotgun.
As always, practice practice practice.
Mostly just worried for my trans friends and family.
I’ve been telling my LGBTQ friends and acquaintances to use signal messenger and get a VPN like mullvad, you can buy vouchers on Amazon.
I grew up in a progressive city in a gerrymandered-to-hell swing state. Cheeto’s first win promptly sent me into a tailspin there. I’ve moved a handful since but now find myself in MT 80 miles from the border, you know, just in case.
Red up here is different than red down there. There it was like rubbing salt in the wound, here it’s quite obviously because there aren’t enough people to know any different.
I’m nonbinary and have been laid off in Florida about it, so I no longer disclose that information professionally. It’s not the most pleasant, but hey, hiding in plain sight is a really good way to see what’s coming down the pike.
Hello fellow Montanan. I wish you well in your journey. There are more of us than you might guess but it does feel like a losing battle a lot of the time
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Pro: a handful of my state’s absolute worst officials are set to quit their jobs and we get a do-over.
Con: they’re quitting to join the administration and they’ll be way more powerful and everyone else will suffer.
Sorry. I did what I could.
Pretty much the same as before the election. Life moves on.
It’s just kind of interesting to be asking the red states about this. Red states were already living in that kind of environment. I feel like it’s the blue states that people should be asking this question to. I live in a red state. I hate the politics here but life isn’t too much different than when I lived in a blue state. I am privileged to be cis tho, so I’d imagine if I were trans I would be terrified. I mean, I’m still a bit scared, but I am a bit of a lucky individual.
You’ll find out soon enough how well we’re “moving on”
It’s easy to say that from a position of privilege. Unfortunately for a large chunk of the population, life is not the same.
I’m not accusing you of anything, you had no control over who you were born as. Just explaining as a reminder.
Not to mention, it’s easy to say that before Inauguration Day. None of Trump’s tyranny has had a chance to happen yet.
Definitely a good reminder!
Trying not to think too hard about it. I’m waiting for the idiots at work to try and bring anything up, but they’ve been uncharacteristically quiet. At least around me. I’m pretty sure I’m the token liberal to these nitwits.
