• thermal_shock@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      man, similar boat. sometimes she can’t even stand straight without teetering, and I’m tired of fighting over it. if anything, this will be the cause to our end.

      I know how people here feel about reddit, but https://old.reddit.com/r/Alanon can help you get away or communicate better possibly.

    • steeznson@lemmy.world
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      Oooft hope my wife wouldn’t write something like this about me. No actual drama but my routine of being a middle-class wine drinker sinking glasses in front of the tv in the evening could be considered problematic.

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        as long as you handle all your responsibilities, it is what it is. when I can’t communicate with my partner or have to keep asking her to handle responsibilities or have the exact same conversation every day because she can’t remember? that’s a big problem. if I can’t trust my partner, then why are we together.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    The same touchscreen gloves I got two years ago that are no longer being made. There’s three pairs on eBay and if no one buys them for me I’m buying them all for myself.

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      I really want to know more about these gloves that have inspired this level of dedication but if you tell me about them I’m probably going to go buy them.

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      Used to be it was hard to find touchscreen gloves. Now most gloves are touchscreen.

      • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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        touchscreenis indeed the easy part

        these gloves were so warm for how thin they were, that’s what made them special

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    For all the children of the world to join hands and sing in the spirit of harmony and peace.

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    I’m certain I won’t get it, as it’s not on my wishlist nor have I ever mentioned it to anyone, but my number one desired object right now is a life-sized, anatomically correct model of a specific non-human animal body part.

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    Some day I’d love to be the owner of a Curta calculator, but considering the cheapest I’ve ever seen them is $700 I don’t think that’ll ever be a Christmas gift. A tax refund gift to myself perhaps one day, but certainly not a Christmas gift.

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      Fuck me for wanting one a loong time ago when you could get a real old one for like 350€… but absolutely not having the money.

      What a masterpiece and a story too.

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    I have all that I can reasonably want that I could reasonably be given, so I’m making a gift instead, I’m off donating blood in half an hour, hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋

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      hopefully someone will appreciate it 😋

      Not sure if wholesome, or wants there to be a car crash…

      (I know what you mean, I just found it humorous.)

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    Functional government with a solid social safety net.
    A country which doesn’t have a culture of greed and psychopathy.

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    I want to have children, but cannot afford them for an undetermined amount of time. Fingers crossed that we’ll have enough money someday!

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      Our experience is that basically the only really expensive thing is childcare. Are you eligible for subsidized, or free, care (or have trustworthy and willing relatives)?

      As for gear, babies don’t need much. But for what they do need, reach out to friends, neighbors, and family! We’re fortunate that we could have afforded everything new, but we really only bought a few things because friends and randos alike gave us so much free kid stuff (we bought a nice stroller, a baby basket, and an IKEA crib — basically everything else was a hand-me-down). Join local “buy nothing” groups, or parent groups (sadly they’re usually WhatsApp, but whatever). Most people hate throwing away stuff, and would rather it go to a good home.

      Look at programs for subsidized/free necessities like diapers. There are lots of resources out there, especially in cities.

      As everyone else said, no one feels ready. We certainly didn’t!

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      3 kids here 12 and under. If you are mentally and emotionally ready for kids just do it. That’s the big secret. You will never be ready financially. Kids adapt and will be happy so long as you are stable and can provide the most important necessities like love, a roof and food.

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        We are both men, and my spouse is still in the process of immigrating here, hehe. I know we’ll never be financially ready, but I want him here while we navigate surrogacy (preferred, but expensive) or adoption.

        We’ll figure it out!

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        If I had serious financial stress I cannot imagine also having kid stress. What if one needs serious medical attention or has special education needs?

        I dunno. This seems reckless.

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          Granted in America yes those are concerns we don’t have to the same degree in Canada but all things considered having a kid is reckless anyways. You either adapt and make it work or you don’t.

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      Seconding other comments, you’ll never ever be financially ready, there will always be new concerns, but that was true for most parents. People far less intelligent and less prepared than you have figured it out and done alright.

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    I already know what I’m getting because it was all disclosed via Amazon wishlist and (although I did have the “no spoilers” option or whatever is called enabled) my brother just blabbed it was empty.

    I didn’t have much on it tbf. But I guess I know what I’m getting. Except I’ve forgotten some of it by now, so it’s kind of a surprise.