Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?
I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess
This absolutely happens. You kinda have to have the right attitude and energy to make it happen, but I’ve had a few flings that lasted a few months because of this kind of meet up.
Let’s put it this way. You’ll never meet anyone randomly at a bar or public event if you don’t strike up a conversation with strangers. Moreso if you don’t go.
Importantly, its hard to set out and make this kind of meet up happen. But sometimes if you go out into the world and just act gregarious, it occurs.
I don’t even know what that means. Energy? We’re not batteries, character traits are formed by our suffering and experiences, many of it are set in stone.
Yeah, energy. Are you attracted to happy, joyous people or those with a chip on their shoulder?
I honestly don’t see that as a factor. Just, treat me well and be physically attractive to me. That’s it.
Picture you’re at a bar or event or something. You’re a bit bored so you decide to strike up a conversation. Who are you gonna pick to talk to? Be the kind of person that you would wanna speak to. You might find some like minded people.
Looks are far far less important than people believe.
I wouldn’t. I don’t speak first, never. My brain, my system just doesn’t work that way. Unless I need precise indications I wouldn’t ask anything from anyone and even when I need indications I would rather solve it by myself, asking would be my last resort.
Well, this kind of way of making new friends might not be for you, and that’s okay. It’ll be harder to meet strangers if you seem closed off to them, but everyone works a bit differently and not everyone can strike up a conversation with people they don’t know. In fact, it seems fewer and fewer people want to do that as the years go on. That’s alright.
This guy posts like this a lot. It always devolves into a pity party where he rebukes every bit of advice or consolation he receives. Check the comment history.
You’ve been trolled and wasted your time. Sorry.
I’m glad the guy responded though, he’s probably helping someone that’s reading his comments. I doubt he’s afraid of being trolled.
Yeah, it may not help OP, but I’m finding value in the conversation of others in the comments. Thanks everyone!
That’s the goal!! Socializing can be very scary for a lotta folks, but sometimes a “fuck it, we ball” attitude and merely trying to wear the mask of someone much more sociable than we usually are can be a delight.
It doesn’t come without pain, but little in life does, so it’s good to practice taking a little rejection now and again.
Helped me, so all was not lost. :)
I’m a bisexual party demon fueled by lemmy up votes and this little interaction alone has given me the power to sexually awaken 3 straight people and make 2 people consider poly relationships.
I cannot be stopped and I will never die.
GET 'EM LAD!!! 😂
Yes. It’s platypus’ famous pity party. The guy is a wreck. A sad sack of shit wallowing in his own toilet of worthlessness.
Best to just pull the lever on his posts and just flush them like the big turds they are.
Even if this is true, you don’t need to be such an ass about it. 🙄
Then it’s unlikely you’ll ever randomly happenstance into a relationship with someone.
You can either accept this, or try to change this. People aren’t as set in stone as you think they are unless they want to be.
If you want something that depends on you making a change in your system or your way of thinking, and you think you can’t do it, you might benefit from talking to a therapist.
Again. That’s not a chance
This will be very difficult for you I fear.
That’s likely