Like… If I go to the plaza in my town this cold afternoon just to watch the stupid Xmas tree I won’t meet a flirty person there right?

I don’t even know why I’m asking this, I won’t do it anyways. Hypothetical I guess

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    Before the internet, this was more common. I’m not sure why this doesn’t seem that plausible to happen unless if you didn’t experience the world pre-internet/smartphone.

    My friend exclusively finds “lady friends” when he is out and about in public and never uses the internet to meet women he is interested in. Usually from a glance and approaching her to say something flirty and get her number to go from there.

    Granted, my friend isn’t looking for “love” in the way you’re describing lol. But he still establishes a romantic connection when out and about in public and I wouldn’t put it past these women to assume they have found love when they share their number with him.

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      1 month ago

      Your friend has no shame or restrictions, there. That doesn’t apply to me, for better and for worse

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        Gotta change your goal from something that is making you feel shameful or restricted.

        Approach people with the idea that maybe they’re attractive to you, but you’re just looking to shoot the shit and pass the time. Nothing shameful about that.

        If you happen to hit it off? Amazing, maybe you can think about next steps then.

        Don’t get me wrong: it’s always hard to put yourself out there, but if you are really struggling with feelings of shame during it, you might not be thinking about it in the healthiest terns.